To think that a reference to your "DH" is a bit rich...

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when you're in Relationships moaning about the fact he's physically/mentally/emotionally abusive, an alcoholic/drug-addict/gambler a cheat/pervert/gay and asking for advice on how to cope/leave him?

Really, is he really and truly your "Dear/Darling Husband/Partner"? Really?

I find it quite astonishing that there are so many women in so many seemingly inappropriate adult relationships who refer to their abuser as DEAR.

i don't think it's a bit rich

i think people use it almost reflexively

plenty of words that begin with d.....

I think they use it without thinking about what the D means.

it has come not to mean dear though. dh, to me just means h.

it is just a signifier.

if op was to put h it would be understandable but slow the flow of reading as it is not what is expected.

it's just the acronym - people might wonder what a random h in a sentence meant

and also, even when you're being abused, you still may love the person

Damned starts with a D as well, Dickhead, Dumbarse, Dumb, Dippy, Deranged, Dopey etc. I tend to read nice posts as Dear Husband and not so nice ones as Damned Husband.

They mean dh = dick head

I read 'dh' to mean husband

I know the d means darling but it just has become an easier way to type husband

at jumpingbeans

YABU

It's just a shorthand term for husband.

I personally think the whole "D" prefix to be a ridiculous affectation.

Of course my son is the most precious thing in the world to me but I don't see why I need to refer to him as "dear son" in a chat room! It sounds as though I'm writing him a letter.

if yo dont like it dont use it.
Easy as

are we having this conversation?

Its a term.............

good afternoon everyone

Could be 'dickhead'. Or dastardly. Or deadly. Dangerous. Drug-addicted. Dismal. Oh this is fun....

However it is possible to still think of someone as 'dear' even if they are causing you grief. If it wasn't DS#2 would rarely by DS

Dratted, Delinquent, DeadIfICouldGetAwayWithIt, Doggone, Doofus...

Departed?

I am very much enjoying your alternatives!

yanbu

I have never got to grips with the D anything - children, brother, husband

I hear you. I say xp. WHen I was with him I never refered to him as dear, not even as shorthand on a forum.

Departed!? like that one. I departed him.

I'm terrified that I will refer to somebody in real life as my SIL. Or something equally geekish.

YABU, it just means husband.

I agree bollocks to the D. Mine is either P or on a bad day "my twat"

No, it does not mean husband, that would simply be "H".