only wanting to invite my daughters friends and not their siblings to her party?

[pinkpalace]

My daughter is fast approaching 2 and I am planning a party at her favourite farm for 10 of her friends. I will be 1 week away from my due date and wanted to arrange a day for her to enjoy that I will be able to sit back, rest my swollen ankles and be safe in the knowledge that everything will be taken care of. The party can even go ahead if baby has arrived or is arriving! It's not cheap at £10 per child so I don't want numbers to snowball.

My problem is that my daughter has a friend who I want to invite and this girl has a brother aged 4. My daughter is aware of the brother although they don't play together and contact between them isn't that often.

Am I right in thinking it is ok not to invite the brother? Otherwise where do I draw the line in future with other children and their siblings? Also, this boy has a dad to look after him when his mum and sister will be at the party.

Help!!

yanbu to not want siblings

but agree i assume each child will be having an adult with them, esp if you might go into labour and then not fair for gps to look aftre 10 2yrs

i odnt see the problem with having a farm party for your 2yr, its nice to make a fuss of birthdays, and esp if you are there/having baby - lets hope new sibling isnt born on same day

and even better you dont have to tidy up

I have booked the farm, so 10 toddlers it is. The mums are either family members or mums that wouldn't leave their kids so I will be fine there!

Zipzap, I am going to take your advice and put in a little footnote in with the invite explaining to everyone that it's one child and one adult and should they wish to bring anyone else they have to pay on the door.

I have spoken to a few of the mummies since and the general consensus seems to be that it will be a lovely place for all the toddlers to enjoy a morning out. Thanks Blondes, I was beginning to question whether I was going way over the top! We waited years to be parents so I can't help but make a little fuss.

Thanks for the good luck wishes for the new arrival too. As a family we certainly have a lot to look forward in the next few weeks!!

Oh, and I have not seen a tractor ride there. Maybe if there is I could jump on after the party is over to give bambino some encouragement!

Ive always done a LITTLE goody bag for siblings.

If they want to bring them along they have to pay for them and look after them.

not something I would personally do for a 2 yo (we just had a quiet day out at the zoo just the three of us! cheap and cheerful) but in regards to the siblings I'd say no. YANBU. It would just get out of hand, cost-wise.

Going against opinion here but I think you ARE being unreasonable not to expect siblings to come along.

I've two kids with an 18 month gap and to be honest, unless the parents inviting one of them doesn't know the other sibling (e.g. a nursery friend), i tend to avoid parties where just one has been invited.

Good luck with the new baby.

Glad you have stuck to your guns pinkpalace, I think it is a lovely idea, what's not to enjoy about a morning at the farm?

My DS would love a party at a farm and he talks about his 2nd birthday party which was months ago now.

BTW, YANBU

YANBU

Enjoy the party - I've always done fairly large parties for my DC from their first birthday, there is nothing wrong with having a big celebration!

pinkpalace - if you have waited years then even more reason to celebrate