To think that you can't pick and choose which children you want at your wedding?

[tri1010]

My Husband cousin is getting married at the end of the summer, we have a three month old baby and her name wasn't on the invite and there was no mention of whether children were welcome. I Mentioned this to my mil and she said of course she can go she just not on the invite. My sil got there invite and her son was on the invite he is five so of course will need to eat.

It was then hen night on saturday and i mentioned it to the groom sister and she said of course it was ok to bring her.

Anyway the groom has rung today and said that the not having any children except for our nephew and we can't bring our baby because others have been told no and they may get annoyed. but surely they will be annoyed anyway because he is there.

I think if you don't want little children at wedding you should say on the invite, i wouldn't have been affended by this but i am affended by the fact that my nephew can go and now i look a bit stupid because i presumed she could go even though she wasn't on the invite, that they had just overlooked her because she didn't need to eat.

"Is anyone else completely sick of these children at weddings questions?"
no

I think it's unreasonable for anybody not to invite a child under 6 mo.
if you don't want children at all, then you should send a letter or note with the invitation stating that: but imo a child under 6 mo should not be separated from mummy.

it's bad form to assume that the recipient of the invitation will know that the baby isn't included just because not on the invitation. most parents would not assume that their child wasn't invited because where parent goes, so goes child.

of course you can pick and choose

you should have also discussed with the bride adn groom not teh MIL

maybe just your husband should go and you can be with your little one?

why would you presume that someone not named on teh invite was invited?

wedding make everyone a tiny bit mad, i thikn

I much prefer weddings with children there (they are part of the family after all) but each to their own. I would never leave a 3 month old baby all day to go to a wedding, whether bf or ff. I would either take the baby with me or send DH on his own. If I wasn't happy, I wouldn't go.

Just decline. If she wants you there that badly, she will have to accept your baby there. Usually brides who don't want kids there say it is to keep the numbers down, so I am assuming that she doesn't want your baby there in case she cries? If she insists on no kids there will be several people who don't go, some will be offended as this topic always shows that.