I know he's only a man, and i love him to bits, but............

[imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy]

I have been poorly in bed all weekend. DP has been brilliant, he has looked after DD, took her out yesterday for the afternoon. Went shopping (admittedly he got my mum to baby sit), cooked dinner x2, put dd to bed.

Great, fantastic, i am reall grateful - even though we share the parenting pretty much equally when he is around so i dont feel like he was doing my job for me or anything.

BUT is it unreasonable of me not to expect to wake up this morning to a house that looks like we have been burgled. An overflowing bin that was so squashed in that i had to fight with it to extracate all the rubbish and split the bag all over the floor? The house STINKS of fish because he has just left the cooking stuff and dinner plates (salmon) laying around (well of course he coudlnt put it in the bin could he because it was full ). No washing done, him asking me for clean socks this am?

Don't get me wrong, i am grateful for him for letting me languish in bed all weekend. But i still feel shitty (really weak and spaced out mostly) and i don't want to have to contend with a house that kim and aggie would condemn.

I did make a comment too him on saturday that it would help to tidy as he went along, this was after he pulled the dining table out leaving DDs pens on the floor to get trampled (dd is 3, so old enough to pick them up but needs reminding etc).

I'm being ungrateful aren't i?

great minds canttouchthis. To be honest, I hold this opinion so dearly that I am avoiding the housework literally as I type. Right now.

awwwww shineon thanks for that, maybe a namechange is in order, but who wants to be perfect...........

LMAO at the anthe turner levels of housework - if you could see my house you would see why that is really very funny. I have to hold my hands up that both DP and i are complete sluts when it comes to the housework, so twas really to be expected that it would be like a scene from war of the worlds when i finally crawled out of my pit. There are ishooos!!

I was pissed off about the bin because he is always guilty of this - just piling the rubbish on top of a full bin instead of emptying it REALLY winds me up! Whenever i pull him up on it, or he is sat there watching me haul the fecking thing through the house to the front garden, he says "oh, i was going to do that earlier" my response is always "but you didn't did you" with a on my face.

Im far from house proud, i managed to load the dishwasher, do DDs lunch and put some washing on the line (that i had to rewash because it had been festering in the washing machine since friday!) and stick another load on - thats me done for the day, will tackle the rest of the pigsty tomorrow.

Im at that horrible stage where i want to do stuff but actually doing it is too much for me

I am now feeling like I really should go and empty the bins for once... I don't even have the excuse of being ill. But I AM pregnant. Does that count [hopeful emoticon]?

Maybe just ten more minutes on MN .

Depends, I suppose... I sometimes have days when the house is still a complete mess by the end of it, even though I've worked really hard.

But, in the normal scheme of things, I manage to look after child/ren, shop, and do the cleaning. So I think I might be a bit incredulous that he couldn't have managed the dishes, etc.

look likes he is sickening for it now

'he had worked all week, and that he had a small child to care for, letting the housework slide is perfectly understandable'

Ok - but does the same standard apply the other way around? I work all week and DH always works a saturday and sometimes a sunday. I manage to look after two children on my own and keep the house clean? What about single parents? Surely they do all of the above all the time?

Am confused

To be fair to the DH it takes a while to get a system going for looking after a house. If he works out of home and the OP does most of the housework and is SAHM it would have been difcult for him to just pick up her system.

He should have emptied the bin and washed the plates though.

Not all men are like that. Your DP did try and help you and leaving the hous work for a day or two won't hurt. My Dh is actually much tidier then me and always tidies up as he goes along when he is cooking.

'he had worked all week, and that he had a small child to care for, letting the housework slide is perfectly understandable'

Yes I posted this Peppapig. And yes, if my DP were ill and I was doing the shopping, cooking and childcare by myself after a week of full-time work I would expect to be cut a bit of slack. In fact, if he griped at me about the bins he would get very short shrift. But then, I am a bit of a lazybones as noted earlier.

I am more concerned that her DP is now coming down with the same illness. That is not fair AT ALL! Quick imaynotbeperfect, book into a hotel ASAP!

Leaving fish plates out is gross full stop whether you have tits or penis