to resent the attention my son gives to my parents?

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OK,
My son (19 months) and my parents have a great relationship - but we've just been on holiday for a week with them and they have driven me nuts!
They are always after my son's attention and feel like they have to play with him and muck around with him 100% of the time. Sounds okay but it was really beginning to grate on me. It's like they can't act or talk like adults when he is around.
I know this may sound good but it's driven me bonkers as: my son can't concentrate on anything, like eating food, when they are around as they are always distracting him, his behaviour gets worse as they give him anything and everything and never say no; and, worse of all, it makes me and my husband feel totally unloved!
It's like we're not in the room when my parents are there. My dad in particular is always interrupting when myself or my husband are speaking to my son, he is always wanting to me the focus of my son's attention. My dad also calls ds "my boy" which drives me nuts.
It got so bad that I'm considering cutting down the amount of time my parents see my son (currently once a fortnight) and I've said so my husband that if I ever suggest going on holiday with them again that he can SHOOT ME IN THE HEAD!! phew.
Rant over.
AIBU?

I see my dgc every weekend, all of them, me and dh never say the N word, we do play with them, colouring,puzzles everything, even taught them french skipping,< paid for that the next day though>, i don't think any of their parents feel left out, relax, put your feet up, knowing your child has grandparents who love spending time with him.

Being babied can make them regress though, my son more than my daughter has much worse behaviour after being with inlaws. He just gets used to getting waited on, not having to help and getting what he wants. It isn't good for kids. Luckily they live some distance away and it's infrequent otherwise I would have asked ex to say something, he's annoyed by it as well.
If they are constantly distracting your son and interrupting when you talk I'd say something when they do it, otherwise I agree once a fortnight isn't much and I presume will reduce as they get older. Just holiday as a family.

Hi,
Devongirl, maybe I should say something. I have made comments, particularly when they are letting him get away with things I wouldn't, like allowing him to throw balls around in the rented cottage we were staying in, and pulling leaves off plants, but i'm normally so irritated by then it comes out all wrong.
2rebecca I think they're encouraging him to be more "babied" as well. They are always carrying him everywhere, and I simply can't keep doing it when they're not here - coz there's just one of me, he's heavy, and I'm a wimp.

ahh we did this last year, took mil with us.
We have the opposite, dont often see the ils, (maybe once every 6 weeks or so)
but asked her to come along for the break.
she got upset when ds was a bit off with her (he was 5), crying and everything,
it was eggshell city.
so i take my own advice and wouldnt go on holiday with them again.

Oh, I didn't realise you meant you resent your child getting all the attention - I used to get irritated by MIL and dh's family badgering ds every five seconds but was irritated on behalf of ds as it seemed very stressful for him, to be interrupted every few seconds with a continual refrain of 'ds! look here! 'ds! Smile for Nanny' etc. etc. etc.

But I still sympathise because it is irritating, no matter which way round the irritation is.

YABU. Grandparents are supposed to give all thier attention to a small granson that is what grandparents do.

YANBU, I know exactly what you mean (apart from the feeling unloved bit, which to be frank sounds a teeny weeny bit OTT ).

My MIL and FIL are like this with nearly 3 year old DD and I find it very stressful (as edam says) on behalf of DD because she's never just let to get on with whatever barmy thing she wants to do. If she's pouring water with a bowl and a cup and perfectly happy pretending it is special medicine, MIL will be all over her forcing her to make cups of tea instead or if she's painting big splats of watery mess, FIL will want to make her do a square and a circle and DD can't so it all ends in tears. They come once a week to look after her for a few hours, for which I am deeply grateful but sometimes I do wish they'd just let her get on with being herself. They also baby her ridiculously, but that's a whole other rant!