To think this is a hugely inappropriate thing to say to a young child??

[mummyloveslucy]

In the space of about 2 weeks, I've heard two adults refere to children as sexy.
One woman said to her son of about 5 "come on then sexy pants" and another woman said to a girl of about 8 "this dress would suit you're sexy little figure".
I just find it really diturbing and really sad. I just don't know what the parents are thinking. Perhaps they don't know what to say to their children so say something silly, I don't know.
Is this just me being stiff, or are these parents a bit simple?

I hear it quite a lot round here. I dont like it much but it doesnt make me all .

A friend of mine always calls my 18mth DS sexy boy. She is a right old chav bless her but she is also a lovely person. She is not weird nor is she pervy. She also adores my son and think he is the handsomest child in the world so maybe I am biased .

BUT I would object if I had an 8 year old DD or DS and someone was referring to them as sexy. They would probably mean it in the same context as above but it would just seem more ewwwww y.

I know what you mean chegirl, some people truly believe that they're being flattering when they say it! However whenever I've heard it, I can't help thinking that they're unintentionally introducing that word to a child at an age when they really don't need to think of themselves as 'sexy' nor have it in their vocabulary until they start maturing and learning about sex.

Has anybody watched the film 'Little Miss Sunshine'?

Great acting and a quirky storyline of the little Olive's quest to get her oddball family to help her enter a Little Miss Sunshine dance/beauty pageant. Many of the observations along the way refer to the way that society allows little girls to listen to inappropriate song lyrics and imitate adult dance moves with hilarious consequences at the finale. What's amusing about it is that it's the, at first sight, dysfunctional family who are shown to care more for their child than the trashy parents who blithely accept what mainstream culture is throwing at them and actively encourage their little girls to be 'sexy.'

OP, YANBU! Not at all, but what's a kindly way of pointing that out to the perpetrator without making an 'issue' of their use of the word ?

DH came home really freaked out when walking the dog one day - a teenager had exclaimed to his friends, "awww, look at that sexy puppy!" The dog was about 14 weeks old -the dog, for crying out loud. Poor DH asked if puppy paedophilia was the new Dungeons and Dragons.

So weird, the co-opting of a word specifically referring to shaggability to just mean general approval.

YANBU.

I don't think that most people would be happy if it was said to their 10yr old DD and therefore it can't be right to say it to a 10mth old DD.
If it is something that can be said to a DS and not a DD then it is a double standard-something I hate.