to think DH could make dinner that I want to eat?

[LadyPinkofPinkerton]

DH decided to barbecue tonight. All well and good I was looking forward to a burger.

DH buttered all the burger rolls. Despite us being together for 11 years, and him knowing all that time that I do not like butter on any kind of sandwich.

Who puts butter with a burger anyway? He thinks IABU because I can eat butter on toast. I think he is unreasonable to make something a way I do not like, especially since it is very easy not to.

[LadyPinkofPinkerton]

SoupDragon yes he will regularly do it with sandwiches too. In fact i usually don't let him make me sandwiches. Or he will moan and say I can make my own cos I'm so fussy

[LovelyTinOfSpam]

Mind you my mum often offers me "a nice piece of bread and butter" or a cup of tea, at which point i question how long she has known me...

For some reason it doesn't wind me up when she does it though, cos she's, like, my mum

[CarGirl]

I nearly lost it with DH at the theme park.

I do not eat lollies with sticks (don't ask can't bear them) so I ALWAYS have callipos or cornettos. I have sensitive teeth and can't really go munching into cold stuff that easily.

I sent him off for cornettos for everyone (like we ALWAYS have) he bought me a magnum - I couldn't even eat it I am so pissed off with him after nearly 10 years together.

It just makes me feel so undervalued, that he doesn't care enough about me to think about my food likes/dislikes when I have to cater his fusiness day in & day out.

[ABetaDad]

This problem is very simple to solve. Just don't allow them to cook - ever!

DW has not cooked for me in 25 years. It really is not worth the stress, she simply has no concept of what it involves. If I am not at home she either does not eat or buys a ready meal from M&S or just goes to a restaurant. SIMPLES!

[thisisyesterday]

ooooh abetadad, i wish i was your wife! lol

cargirl, my best friend is like you re: lolly sticks.

[simplesusan]

YANBU

Does he take sugar in his tea/coffee? if not throw in a few spoonfulls next time you make him a cuppa and watch him moan

[MrsGokWan]

My DH does this with stir fry's. He knows I like them bare and fresh with no soy or whatever.

He did it to me tonight. I've been very ill and was in bed this afternoon trying to catch up on sleep. I'm really grateful for that and when I came down at 8.00 he had done a load of housework and sat me down, bought me a drink, checked I was fine, got the dinner out of the microwave and presented it lovingly. It was a plate of soggy stir fry, that tasted of nothing more than soy. If he had just kept some apart with no sauce and spent the 5 minutes he had it in the micro frying it up in the wok and presenting me with fresh veg then it would have just capped what he has done. I know I am an ungrateful cow.

[Bonneville]

I have never known anyone to put butter in a burger ever. This is vile! TrinityRhino are you SURE everyone you know does this?

[Scorpette]

I know this is a stoopid DH/DP thang, but my Dad is terrible at this stuff too. He still buys my mum dark chocolate every birthday and Xmas and she despises the stuff (funnily enough, it's his favourite ) and he puts sugar in her tea and coffee - she has never had it in either. He is also under the impression that she hates tomatoes, which she loves. Also, I am 36 and he offers me a cup of tea or coffee every time he sees me - I had a sip of each ONCE as a small child (not in his presence, either) and found them so vile that I have never had EITHER since. My DP is actually v attentive to what I like, but I won't go on about that here!

I also have food allergies and DP's mum INSISTS on 'cooking' for me whenever we see DP's family (I beg offer to do it myself, but she won't have it, so am not BU). Last time we saw her she gave me a giant lump of semi-frozen goat's cheese with some pinky blood on it where she had used the same knife that she had just cut up some meat with. And nothing else. Yum yum!

PS Butter on a burger bun? Fleeeeurgh!

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

YANBU. My DH is usually good like this as he's very particular too but I almost cried when he made a salad and it had chopped onion in it. It looked so nice, he had used all the rest of the posh salad leaves and I just didn't understand why he could'nt have left the onion separate. It really upset me.

[TrinityRhino]

actually I have a had a rethink
I think that was a stupid thing to say

I dont think its true

I do it though and I think I know why

I find all kinds of bread so unbelievably dry and ugh

I out lashings of butter on my toast even under peanut butter

I alwasy use spread/butter on sandwiches

any bread at all needs lubricant

[rookiemater]

Ugh don't even get me started on the vileness of butter with peanut butter....