To be pissed off with swine-flued granny insisting on being visited on her birthday?

[BitOfFun]

I mean ffs! Does quarantine not apply on birthdays then?

Dd1 sits next to a girl in class whose granny was diagnosed with the pig lurgy two days ago. Dd1 tells me her friend is being frogmarched round there tonight on granny's orders, and I can't believe how stupid some people are.

I'm taking the sort of immunosuppressant drugs that people have after transplants to stop you rejecting organs, and dd2 has a bowel disorder that means she has little natural resistance to anything, plus learning disabilities which mean she won't even accept calpol on a spoon, never mind bleedin tamiflu tablets or whatever she would need if she caught it...

AIBU to be pretty bloody cross and considering keeping dd1 off school even? But why should she miss the fun end of term stuff? Will buying her some of that germ-repellent handwash help, do you think? How am I supposed to keep her from getting infected?

Some people! Aaaaargh!

I'll have a word with the GP tomorrow I think- you've given me some good advice, thankyou!

BitOf, I would hate to see anyone suffer the way I did yesterday!!! or more so the way ds2 did today that has been heart wrenching. he looks so small and vunerable.

Mind you I have lost 4lb in 3 days and almost stopped smoking (2 in 3 days and couldn't smoke them) Oh and been drinking water and orange, only one coffee normally 10-15 cups a day lol

Just read back, so it's DD1 who is in class with Typhoid Granny, and DD2 (and you) who are delicate? I think you'll survive if you have DD1 wash hands before eating and also when coming home. I've read that there are MNers who have had swine flu in the house (albeit with normal immune systems) and managed not to spread it to the whole family.

Have a look at misdee's thread (entitled something like 'swine flu oh bugger what am I going to do about peter?'), there's lots of stories on there.

(not that I've actually read all these threads, just glanced through, but trying to be helpful and also bumping for the morning)

I think YABU - unless you are intending to hide in a cupboard for the next 6 months I think its going ot be virtually impossible to avoid contact with someone whos had contact with someone with swine flu.

How are things this morning BoF?

YANBU. It doesn't matter that most of us might get it eventually from unavoidable contact, people having totally avoidable contact (like this granny insisting on being visited) are just helping to spread it further and faster to more people. It's really irresponsible and selfish.

Even though swine flu will spread everywhere eventually, the slower it spreads, the easier it will be for the NHS to manage. That means more chance of survival for the vulnerable people, because they'll get better medical care than in a totally overloaded system.

Isolating yourself when you're ill does make a difference, even if the disease is still generally out there. That's really what this granny ought to be doing.

It's very possible there is no swine-flu-ridden granny. She may well have a slight cold and the family is jokingly saying that it's swine flu. My 5yr old DD came downstairs yesterday coughing, and claiming to have the swine lurgy. I have complete sympathy with you though. My sister had a transplant, and I know that if she were alive now we'd all be terrified that she'd get ill.

Thanks for the tips- I will look up misdee'd thread. I am such a chickenshit that I have hidden every swine flu thread on sight in my typically mature manner of dealing with uncomfortable situations

I have bolstered my immune system this morning by going back to bed and having a lovely long lie-in...

What is the protocal now -- isn't Swine Flu being diagnosed over phone based on cold-like symptoms plus fever? Then once you've got diagnosis you start taking anti-virals so that you should stop being contagious quickly, I would have thought... So I'm minded to say YABU... risk might be quite low if Gran is being treated and like someone else said, you can't hide completely from this or any other flu bug.

This diagnosis over the phone thing is bound to be very unreliable, I half-bet Granny doesn't have it at all.

4 months ago before we all heard of Swine Flu I suddenly had a terrible flu-like illness, including a fever over 40 degrees. It would definitely get diagnosed over the phone as Swine Flu today. I half-expect I'd end up dying before they realised their mistake. I begged to be seen by a GP, the GP dithered before sending me to hospital, where they went into panic stations about my high fever: in hospital for 5 days, lots of IV fluids, lots of antibiotics and other drugs to get better. It was an infection of my innards (NOT Contagious) on top of me having a cold, not F'ing swine flu.

i don't think they are being stupid TBH. It's a mild illness for most people. More likely to be dangerous to the granny than younger people. It's unfortunate for you but unless they know about your situation, it's not inconsiderate. Surely there are always viruses and infections doing the rounds that are just as much of a threat?

No-one can insist on being visited. It's up to the visitor whether they go or not. It's the parents who are at fault for dragging the sprog along not granny. She probably doesn't have swine flu anyway.