To think that if my grandmother wants to have contact with me then she should get off her arse and make it happen?

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My grandmother is in a huff with me because I hardly ever ring her or visit. I know this because she has complained about it to my mum. She says that I never answer the phone to her either.

She has rung a few times (but only a few) and I haven't answered because I'm the middle of bathtime or whatever.

I quite like my grandma, though we're not especially close. I'm in no way deliberatly ignoring her.I fully admit that I'm a bit crap about keeping in contact with people, and I should be better at it. But I have a toddler and a part-time job - I'm rushed off my feet most of the time!

AIBU to think that the onus should be on her to keep up the contact?

LOL!!!

Can still hear my Grans voice 'Eh our Shabster, you are still beautiful even though you are a big fat girl'

I used to say 'Awwwww ta Gran you moaning old bugger' then I would get a slap round the back of my legs!!!!!

She reminded me of the Nan on Catherine Tate!!!

How old is your Gran? She IS taking the onus of maintaining contact, isn't she? I quite understand why you are too busy too always respond but she may not be with you for ever .

My mum is 80. We are in our 40's, with a teenage DS, and are moving across the country to live with her next month. She is an amazing old bird, who constantly cadges roll-ups off me and demands endless "small" glasses of sherry after the sun has set over the jolly old yard-arm.

Her hobby is watching the stock-exchange on teletext, hassling her broker and and moaning about the decline in her investments . She has more marbles than the rest of the family put together (including a DSIL who is a university professor.) She has been managing a crumbling 15 room pile single-handed for the last 16 years since my Dad died .

There ARE some old gimmers out there who are fiercely independent, but who desperately want to maintain contact with their children and grandchildren, and don't want to ever appear needy or demanding.

Walk a mile in someone's shoes.............

Oh Flitter - your Mum sounds brilliant

I want to be a badly behaved Mum and Gran at all times.