to think my neighbour is an unfriendly snob

[VictorMeldrew]

We share a garden as we live in flats, i dont go in it very often, only to hang my washing out, i dont bother her much but if i do go into the garden when she is there, i do like to have a little chit chat as i have no family or friends close by and i am sometimes very lonely

Now she wants to put a dividing fence in between us, thsi will make the garden very narrow, she also said she disapproves of me hanging my smalls on the shared washing line, i can tell she doesnt want to make conversation with me, i am very as i have never been unpleasant to her

Should i agree to the fence?

no

no, she could at least be civil to you.

Bad form

But Victor, what about your wife and son who live with you? Can't you talk to them instead?

Oh, wait! Have you forgotten to make sure you've got all the info? Tut tut, dear. Off you go and watch Emmerdale.

Ffs. This is pathetic. Very bad form to start a thread about a thread you know.

oooh. This is a thread about a thread isn't it.
Thats naughty.

Victor maybe your neighbour wants to put the fence up because, and I'm sorry to be the one to say it, your loneliness shines out like a bright beacon and she feels almost as if she's being stalked every time you follow her go ouside to chat...

Snog her and break the ice. Tell her you have the blood of a Berlusconi hurtling through your veins and it must out.

she sounds a very uptight,odd person - does she have any preference as to what colour/style smalls you should buy? Agree with her that one half is yours & one half hers, to hang out whatever washing you please!

I would say No to the fence. It's horrible when there is tension beween neighbours but she doesn't sound as if she is a reasonable person. Has she been there longer than you? Thinks she has more of a 'right' to the garden than you? Well, she doesn't! Your say is just as important.

I hope you can meet some more people locally & make some friends - what about through your dch? Invite some dch round to play/for tea & you'll meet other mums.

rofl at people who haven't seen the other thread

Maybe hint that you will leave your garden to her in your will? She'll be cooking casseroles for you in no time and seem much more friendly.