To be pissed off at my homestart volunteer?

[MsChievous]

She cancelled our meeting today last night (thanks for the notice), and wanted to see me tomorrow, but i am going to a group tomorrow which is also homestart based so asked her to come along in the afternoon or a different day.

She has now realised that it was a homestart group and has invited herself along, and has worded it in a way that leaves me no choice.

I am really pissed off because I haven't been going that long and am just trying to get to know people, and now she is coming I won't be able to do that.

I don't have any friends around here and like to have them seperate as it also helps fill out my otherwise very lonely and adult lacking week.

AIBU to have at least expected the option of not having her there?

Miss Sunny - Homestart only visit the 'clients' not the volunteers
And they certainly arent looking for super sorted, super organised mums - Im not one of those thats for certain
To volunteer for homestart you just need to be confident enough to chat and make friends with others, reliable and respectful of confidentiallity

MsChevious - I hope you sort this out to your satisfaction.
And that you make some local friends soon - if you have any spare send them my way please

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Really
I am going to our office on Monday so I will ask then - I am shocked by that tbh

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They visit to have a look at you in your home environment, before they send you into someone else's home environment. They don't judge you on whether your curtains match your scatter cushions!

Having the right attitude and enthusiasm is what they are looking for.

I used to bean organiser for homestart

i'd have been upset ifafamily had niot have told me that a match wasn't working because if we dont know what can we do?

only scanned thread but ifanyone has read properly and has any questions about homestart feel free

MsChievous - if you want to email me drum_widow at hotmail dot com

i am in Lincolnshire, a fair way from you at the moment,but if you have transport we could try and arrange to meet halfway for coffee. Life a little hectic right now (house move imminent) but i can chat via the computer until we can arrange a suitable time to meet.

OK

We did visit the volunteers, partly ebcuase its a need for security- to see if the addresses on forms etc match relaity. But all we care about is a nice enough eprson, right attitude, clear CAb and able to give a few hours.

During the training we used to assess as well- as much for who to match people with as anything else but yes we did refuse a few volnteers because of things they disclosed during training- eg if someone made a racist joke they'd be out

but we really didnt care about what your home was like or anything else,serisouly- many of our volunteers we re ex famillies anyhow (yay for that) and anyone who thinks my house was anything other than a work in progress would be very mistaken!

All employess ahve to be parents themselveas: it amkes a big difference I think

MsChievous

have you tried posting on NETMUMS ? They have a local meet a mum section where you can posta bout yourself and contact other mums in the area - it works really well, I met my bestest mummy friend through netmums and it has boosted my confidence meeting somone i click with that I now find it eaier to make other friends