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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to find male strippers offensive?

26 replies

wonderingwondering · 06/07/2009 19:55

Was at a hen night, in a restaurant with lots of other hen nights on. We'd paid for meal, entertainment, drinks, disco, all in.

Suddenly, a 'fireman' marches in, the manager allows him to commandeer the dancefloor, and for 25 minutes he cavorts around in a state of undress. One of the hen parties had booked him, so the rest of us were 'treated' to the spectacle.

I was completely repulsed, and found it offensive. And I was cross that the stripper had been allowed to take over the whole place, not just tucked himself alongside the table that had booked him. Apparently that is all pretty commonplace.

I really resent the assumption that we'd all be happy to gawp at some man pretending to be a fireman, then presumably whoop while he takes his clothes off.

I found it revolting on so many levels! AIBU?

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ABetaDad · 06/07/2009 19:59

YANBU. The same thing happened to me once with female strippers. The hen party should have hired a private room.

HecatesTwopenceworth · 06/07/2009 19:59

Not at all. You are entitled to your opinion, same as anyone else.

giddykipper · 06/07/2009 20:00

I find them utterly revolting too.

KingRolo · 06/07/2009 20:00

YABU, you were on a hen night, what did you expect?

HecatesTwopenceworth · 06/07/2009 20:01

I don't find them revolting, just embarrassing. Really embarrassing.

KingRolo · 06/07/2009 20:01

It is revolting though!

KingRolo · 06/07/2009 20:02

...and embarrasing. Just is what you'd expect on a hen night though.

KingRolo · 06/07/2009 20:02

got to stop using the word though.

wonderingwondering · 06/07/2009 20:03

I think hiring strippers is awful, and demeaning. And it does nothing for me. I dn't get the 'ooh fireman' thing, let alone the 'ooh, someone pretending to be a fireman'.

And the assumption we'd all just love to see it - for 25 minutes!

So I thought there might be strippers - each to their own. But not where I couldn't avoid them.

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KerryMumbles · 06/07/2009 20:03

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JesuslovesCatholicSchools · 06/07/2009 20:04

a friends booked me a stripping vicar once - it was entertaining. however i can see how one can be annoyed at it overtaking the evening

giddykipper · 06/07/2009 20:05

In a similar vein, I find this advert offensive too.

Morloth · 06/07/2009 20:08

I don't find them offensive exactly but just a bit stupid and juvenile.

wonderingwondering · 06/07/2009 20:10

I think part of the offence was that assumption that it was OK as we were all women and therefore all going to love it.

Just the sweeping generalisation that all women go mad for a bit of half-naked pretend fireman with baby oil.

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AnyFucker · 06/07/2009 20:13

did you sit there with a face like a slapped arse all the way through ?

sorry, but you sound a bit humourless

it was obviously a venue where this kinda thing is commonplace, so what on earth did you expect ?

LaurieFairyCake · 06/07/2009 20:14

The very last thing I want on a night out (even a hen night) is to see some random blokes COCK sausage wiggling about when I'm trying to eat my frankfurter and chips.

That shit can put you off.

expatinscotland · 06/07/2009 20:14

I don't find it offensive, I just find it dumb. I've never seen any of those who I'd find remotely attractive. Meh.

wonderingwondering · 06/07/2009 20:17

It did put me off my pudding, a bit, another reason to be cross.

I don't mean to be humourless, a lot of people there were a bit put out. It just went on for SO LONG, as well.

But a lot of people were on chairs, screaming, to be fair.

I fear I may have been doing a cat's bum.

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AnyFucker · 06/07/2009 20:23

what was the pudding?

spotted dick ?

LobstersLass · 06/07/2009 20:31

I don't find them offensive. But I do find them embarrassing and pathetic.

There were strict orders that there wasn't to be one on my hen-night.

expatinscotland · 06/07/2009 20:31

PMSL !

Nah, it was sticky toffee.

Bonneville · 06/07/2009 20:35

I agree - not embarrassing but pathetic - what sort of a person/group books one of these? Screaming and hollering for them to 'get them off' - ugh!

AnyFucker · 06/07/2009 20:37

tapioca ?

< clumsy attempt at simile with spunk >

wonderingwondering · 06/07/2009 20:39

mini arctic roll with a couple of scoops of icecream, as you're asking

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TitsalinaBumsquash · 06/07/2009 20:42

I find them really cringe worthy, but certain childrens entertainers do that to me to (Clowns)

I wouldn't have liked it and would have left the room under the pretence of a phone call or something.

I have been invited to a hen night at a "naught boys collage" soon, i wont be going, its really not my sort of thing!