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to feel tempted to start smoking again after nine years without?

31 replies

emkana · 02/07/2009 22:16

If I stick to just two a day?

I feel tempted because I am stressed (dh was made redundant today) and because I want to lose weight.

OP posts:
Heathcliffscathy · 02/07/2009 22:17

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO.

slippery slope. stinks. will not help matters at all.

so so sorry about dh but fags are not the way forward darling.

Grandhighpoohba · 02/07/2009 23:04

I thought I would just smoke occaisionally... back on 20 a day.

Don't do it!

Ewe · 02/07/2009 23:05

Not unreasonable, just fucking daft.

Don't bother.

ErikaMaye · 02/07/2009 23:06

Slipperly slope indeed!

I'm sorry you're stressed, but REALLY not the way to deal with it. If you want to loose weight, make sure you're eating sensibly - this can also actually help your stress levels

KingCanuteIAm · 02/07/2009 23:06

You will be sick, you will stink, your mouth will taste like crap until enough of your tastebuds have been killed off....

There are better ways to loose weight and deal with stress!

DanieC · 02/07/2009 23:08

oh bless you i bet your well stressed, but if you start again do you think you could stick to 2 a day?!

notnowbernard · 02/07/2009 23:09

I haven't smoked for 9yrs IIRC

I still crave one occasionally (like, MADLY - only lasts about a minute though)

DON'T DO IT!

I know if I had one, that'd be it

Tortington · 02/07/2009 23:10

dont be a cockhead.

sorry about the redundancy - your not having much luck

xxxx

mrsboogie · 02/07/2009 23:11

You know, of all the horrible things that can happen to a person, going blind, losing the use of their legs, etc the absolute WORST thing has got to be ending your days struggling to get every single breath into your lungs, unable to walk or talk or do anything. It would be like drowning or being in a fire, all day every day.

Is it worth risking that to take up a highly addictive habit that you have managed to kick once and may not be able to again?

It won't make your husband's redundancy any less of a problem either - just waste your precious money!

paisleyleaf · 02/07/2009 23:15

If you're worried about money because of the redundancy
getting hooked on ciggies again is only going to make that worse.

Well done for 9 years - I think your health could well be pretty much the same as that of a non smoker where you are now. (my last ciggie was february, and I still feel a bit vulnerable about it)

Heathcliffscathy · 02/07/2009 23:37

pmsl at custy.

don't hold back there!

lulalullabye · 03/07/2009 00:02

You will stink
You will have no money
You will slowly kill yourself
You will seriously regret it
You know that two a day will not be enough
And you know that it is a false stress reliever that will work for 20 mins and will not solve any of your probelms !

There, hope that has changed your mind

Staunch ex smoker here !!!

RatherBe · 03/07/2009 00:46

Sorry OP, you are hoping someone will give you a reason to start smoking again. There isn't one. Do it if you want to, but don't look to other people to make it OK.

OnceWasSquiffy · 03/07/2009 04:01

hahahaha

You will no doubt look cool and sexy next winter shivering outside pub doorways in the rain having a drag while everyone else has a laugh inside.

And don't forget those tres chic coughing fits. lovely.

And the nicotine hangovers

Still, you'll at least have lots of company with all the other losers queuing up at the fag counter at Tescos.

HarryB · 03/07/2009 08:16

Sorry to hear that your DH has been made redundant. But don't do it - you will regret it instantly. Have some crack cocaine instead Just kidding. Could you not try some patches just to control your cravings through the stress.

I am an ex-smoker so feel your pain. What stops me is knowing that if I start smoking again, I may not be around to see DS grow up. Cue puke emoticon, but when I get a craving that thought stops me every time.

Tillyscoutsmum · 03/07/2009 08:22

You've done 9 years !!! Can you remember how hellish it was to stop ?? Can you remember all the reasons why you wanted to stop ?? Can you remember how much better you felt within a few weeks of stopping ? Most importantly, can you remember being stressed and smoking actually really helping or solving any of your problems ??

You'll feel stressed - you'll smoke a cig, you'll feel better for about 5 minutes and then the craving for the next one will start and if you're only having 2 a day (ha !), you'll end up feeling even more stressed than you do now because you'll be throwing nicotine withdrawal into the mix

DON"T DO IT !!!

So sorry about your dh though. Shit times

pjmama · 03/07/2009 08:24

I have never, EVER, been able to stick to just one or two. Every time I've started again with this intention I've always ended up back on 20 a day. If your DH is being made redundant, you probably can't afford it anyway in spite of all the other good reasons!!

I haven't had a fag now for 5 years, which is the longest I've gone since I was 16. I'm hoping this time I've cracked it for good - I just look at my 2 wonderful babies and realise that I no longer have the right to take chances with my own mortality like that.

southeastastra · 03/07/2009 08:29

blimey 9 years well done! i'm into month four without. was hard to quit don't want to go through that again. do you?

MorningTownRide · 03/07/2009 09:09

I quit 6 years ago.

I still dream about smoking. I LURVED smoking. I miss it.

However: Have you seen the price of cigarettes?? They're nearly £6 a packet and you know that you'll not have 2 a day. They'll be the one with coffee and the one after all your meals and the one when you're waiting for something and the one when you're stressed and the one after an argument and the one when the dc are acting up and the one after sex....

MorningTownRide · 03/07/2009 09:10

Oh and smokers are half a stone heavier than non smokers (generally)

MamaLazarou · 03/07/2009 09:13

Don't do it. You don't need it. You can get through this without becoming a slave to the cancer sticks.

CMOTdibbler · 03/07/2009 09:16

Don't do it - you'll end up spending money on it, hurting your health, and your DS will see you smoking and be more likely to smoke himself in the future

mangopassionfruitshake · 03/07/2009 09:21

Congratulations on your 9 years, that's great.

Now don't be a nobhead.

HumphreyCobbler · 03/07/2009 09:22

it will taste foul after nine years

imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy · 03/07/2009 10:15

emkhana - i am going to play a huge guilt trip on you now.

My dad smoked all his life, he started when he was 21 after he met my mum (she'd drive the pope to drink!). The had a mild heart attack, scared him into stopping smoking. Investigation found it was most likely smoking related. He then developed dementia, again smoking related - we were told that it was vascular dementia - thickening of the arteries. He went from being my lovely dad to someone i didn't recognise, and who didn't recognise me . He spent 3 years in a living hell before he died from lung cancer. He never met his second grand daughter who was born eight weeks when he died. IF MY DAD HAD NOT SMOKED, HE WOULD BE PICKING DD UP FROM NURSERY TODAY AND TAKING HER FOR AN ICE CREAM, i have no doubts in my mind about that!

PLEASE do not start smoking again, for the sake of your children.

It is amazing that you have managed to stop, i applaud you - the chances of developing smoking related illnesses diminish with time, so its not like you're fucked already, but you will be if you go down that slippery slope again.

I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but i feel so strongly about this.