To want to F-ing SCREAM

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I have someone i havn't seen for a long time staying at my house ATM and she has been here TWO fucking days and I just want to rip all my hair out into a little pile and kick it!!!

So many reasons, patent disregard/disrespect for any of my stuff, quite happily put the futon on a bunch of stuff and didn't even check if it was broken, will see when they go, pulled this sheet stuff i am putting under a barked part of garden all out so her and her son can lay on it, when there was sun loungers right fucking next to them.

Her son wound down the window in the car and broke the roller blinds on the, what did she say? 'i don't think he will be able to do that' so what? am i lying?

Her son wont wear a seatbelt properly and she won't get him to, so i have to plug him in and just hop he lasts the journey and stop if she tells me he is out.

She lets her son run off and I spend ages just waiting around for them, she has no control over him and lets him do whatever he wants, if not he just crys and crys until he gets it.
I am afraid that her sons bad behaviour will rub off onto my son!

She left my door unlocked when we went out so anybody could have walked in and stolen anything and i wouldn't be insured.

She won't pay for anything, I have spent a fortune on food etc because she wants to go for picnics but then avoids paying for anything, I do get it, she is a single mum, but so am I and I can't afford it either.

I am feeling really angry and a bit trapped tbh because she isn't going home until monday, just tell me Ianbu, and stroke my poor stressed head

She needs to go now. Arrange to take a phone call telling you of a "family emergency" then go straight to sorry, you are going to have to pack I'll drop you at the station in an hour. NO you can't stay until I get back, sorry am too stressed to talk you need to pack NOW. You can later put any sharpness, rudeness or general "you really need to move we're out of here NOW" shouting down to stress if you want to You go girl!

get her out!

OMG she is horrid! I would just fall out with her and have done with it. TBH it sounds like she is just using you anyway.

If she asks you for a lift anywhere, say 'no I can't I'm sorry I have ran out of petrol and have no money to fill the car up'.

As for stains of food, wee and toothpaste hand her a bucket of soapy water and a cloth and say 'here you go' with a stern annoyed look.

This is why i NEVER ever have people to stay

I had a friend to stay with her son a few weeks ago for 5 days, it was a nightmare! Never again thats for sure. She's currently not talking to me but Ive known her for 16 years now, and knew that was to be expected and I actually dont care! (How things have changed since school....) I feel almost liberated.

OMFG! YANBU by any stretch of the imagination!

You seriously need to talk to her, that's digusting & rude that she hasn't even bothered to clean up her own childs wee FFS!

I would have lost it at that point & started yelling!

Sounds like she's taking you for a ride. She's probably broke and got herself selfishly into 'guest mode' where she thinks you look after her and she'll live off you for a few days. Also sounds like she can't cope with her child. Wonder would she let you take the lead on that one too. She needs to grow up. Don't fall for the Tuesday travel trick. Stand firm and see the end getting nearer every minute. We're all here counting down with you!

She sounds vile. Kick her out after making it clear that you are not her mother/slave/meal ticket.

Is this for real?

Using your tampons too?

You need to say to her NO.

Yes, possibly emphasised with a sharp tap on the nose

I wasn't so bothered about the tampons, i use a mooncup and don't use them, they were just a back up.

She has just come up saying she hopes i dont mind, she has used my bread, and when i went to make a sandwich she had left the beg open and there were 2 bits left that were very fresh.

she also said she would help tidy up, the place is a tip now

???

very fresh??

oops, not very fresh

OH MY FUCKING GODDDDDDDD

I have told her that she can't stay here tonight, she is going to go and camp out with her sister, but is complaining about the distance back because she can't afford the fare back, is saying she is going to walk the 30 miles back, and tbh I couldn't give a shit, she says she will split it in two journeys and camp in the middle.

What did it was the fact that she ruined something very special to me, qand didn't even say anything, just left me to find it. When I was younger I used to go crabbing with my grandparents and one time my nan took me to this amazing field with water lavender everywhere and we picked some and dried it out, i used to have a big vase full but some of it got ruined in a move and i only had a small bit left, i found it knocked on the floor and all trodden on

I just want to cry, my nan has been gone nbearly a decade now and i can't replace it, i'm so upset

She still hasn't cleaned up the wee even though i brought the carpet cleaner upstairs for her.

she has just been lounging around using my internet, whilst her child covers my carpet in multicoloured chalk, will need to find out the best way to get that off, i am sure it won't be wetting it?

She picked up a piece of (her) rubbish earlier, i asked her if she was taking some rubbish in and handed her some more of (her) rubbish, i was feeling pleased she had done something until i went to the loo and she had just put it all on the side in there

I told her I was going to tidy up a bit, she half heartedly asked me if i would like a hand so i said yes please, she put the lid on the duplo (without putting all the duplo in it ) and then said she needs to pop into town, she has left me to do it, am fuming, asked her to pick up some bread whlst she is out.

freeloading bitch.

Oh and she left the lids of all the condiments in the garden, after i had already gone and closed them all after our BBQ, it has rained here today and there are loads of flys hanging around them, so now am going to throw out all my nice chutneys and stuff i thought would be nice.

FFS, i feel angry that i even bothered, will give her value ketchup next time

This week is costing me such a fortune, i have even said this so many times but no offer of anything towards it.

and for the record, i know i invited her so am expected to provide food etc, which i wouldn't mind to some extent, if they respected me/my stuff and helped out when we were out shopping. I would if i was staying somewhere! but i hadn't expected to have to have to pay for everything.

Oh, and she didn't have any short sleeved tops for her son so i lent her one of ds's that he hasnt worn (is much smaller than her ds) and it is now stained I know this isnt her fault but she didnt apologise or anything and has just left the rest of ds's clothes she borrowed on the lawn in the garden

My house is now an absolute TIP ffs!!!

Well done for saying something. Am wondering whether you would still have a house left if you let her and her darling son stay any longer.

I cannot believe anyone would stay in someone else's house and disrespect them as much as she has.

You don't need friends like her.

Sorry about your water lavender

I think I have hung onto this friendship because we have a very traumatic history together. I don't know why but I feel a bit guilty that I have been able to move on and she isn't coping with life at all.

But I think it might be time to take a step back, if she asks to stay again I will just say I can't afford to!

It isn't your fault that she isn't coping as well as you are, don't feel guilty for her. This isn't a license to just sponge off someone and trash their house. She is just taking advantage of you.

Good luck.

Just hold on to the thought that by the end of today she will be gone and you will be able to put your house straight and have a large glass of wine. I don't believe she won't have the fare...I think that's all manipulative. After all, I bet she hasn't just gone window shopping in town whilst leaving you to do the clearing up.

When she came back from the shop she brought me chips, and gave me £10 towards petrol. She also had an attempt at tidying up, though didn't do a very good job of it, but that could be because I am quite particular about how I like it done?

Anyway, she has gone now, she missed the first one, and thought she was going to miss this one, so i gave her a lift to the station

I feel so relaxed, even though I know i have a bucket load of tidying ahead of me

Oh, and she did have a go cleaning the piss off the floor in the hall

I know i have so many things to do but i do feel better that at the end she helped a little, and she will be staying here again sunday to leave on monday, as pre arranged, but I won't be so quick to invite her for a week next time.

Silence is golden [sigh]

OMFG - what a horrible person
Im glad she is gone now!
I presume you wont be staying in touch?

I don't know, we do have a big past together and I feel bad because I am one of her only friends.

She lives 100's of miles away so I wouldn't probably see her again, but we do chat on fb and msn.