To want to give these cats a home?

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My friend was adopted by a cat, who then went on to have 4 kittens under her bed! She can't keep them as she already has 2 cats, but I would really like to give them a good home.

I don't want to keep all of them, possibly just one kitten and the mother (who is barely out of kittenhood herself) and find homes for the rest of the kittens. But dh has said no, because apparently I'm always complaining about the amount of work I have to do to keep the house sorted and cats would only add to that.

Bearing in mind we have a 2.5 year old and a 17 week old, and dh barely pulls his weight at the best of times, AIBU? The only thing he'd need to do is change the litter tray as I'm breastfeeding, and that would only be for a short amount of time, as IME cats much prefer to go outside - although then he'd need to de-poo the garden. But it's not like I'm going to be bf-ing forever (although it feels like it at the moment! ) and cats live up to 20 years.

Maybe we can let this horrible thread die now? If i'd known dh was going to actually come on then I wouldn't have started it.

How is being asked for my input on something that should be a joint decision 'handing judgments down from on high'?

I've given what I think are sound, thought through reasons for what I think about this, and as it's something that affects me, I should be able to do that without insult.

Or is every single thing that I say or do that isn't agreed with going to now be a 'judgment from on high'?

That's just... weird... and I don't get it. It just feels like a tactic to try to get your own way and belittle my opinions and actual judgements I've made based on the situation.

Sometimes you do have to make judgments, but these aren't any kind of patriachal dominance. They're just my opinion on a matter. And that's what was asked for in the first place.

I think waiting a bit before getting any pet would be a good idea, babies, small children and pets are not a really good mix

I have five cats. And three pre-school children. Kids love the mogs dearly but have yet to cause injury to any of them.

That said the cats are all persians, very laid back sofa loafers who live in the house. Therefore not much trouble with fleas and gifts of dead wildlife.

If you are looking for a kitten try this website

Oh great, cat lovers - can anyone please tell me what to do with a cat that is carrying great big fat juicy fleas that seem to be totally impervious to Frontline and that other stuff despite us half poisoning* the bloody moggy with it??

please?

ps sorry for hijack

/scratch scratch

*joke

mrsB - have you tried combing? My parents never used any chemical treatments on any of their cats, just combed them thoroughly and put the fleas in a bowl with water and washing up liquid.

Don't worry about the hijack. The thread was thoroughly hijacked before you came along!

Get the cats
They are grateful creatures who as long as you provide food/water/shelter outside and in and some cuddles when you can, will repay you with their loyalty.

I changed litter trays when pregnant, its only a (minor) risk if the cats have worms and you actually touch cat poo-if you worm them with Drontal, they will not have worms and there will be no risk to you/kids.

Mrs B
You need to treat the cats with something other than Frontline poss Advocate (good product but just an example)
But you also need to treat the enviroment the cats live in.
Fleas only spend a short time on the actual animal the rest of the time they are off breeding.
Wash all cats bedding and hoover areas they lay. You can also get products from the vet to spray the carpets and skirting boards with.
I know its pretty dramatic and the spray is horrible but you could do it then go out and let the house breathe so the smell is gone when you get home.
Once fleas have gone you need to keep up monthly prevention.

You can comb the fleas out of the cat but it wont stop others jumping on.

I am a VN and I have seen some pretty bad flea probs in my time and know that hitting them hard is what it takes.

You should also worm your cat as some types of tapeworm use fleas as part of their lifecycle.

Good Luck