To take my Chicken Poxy baby out on Saturday?

[Rosieeo]

This is my first AIBU so please be gentle(ish)!

DD had the chicken pox two weeks ago, so no nursery or any of our usual activities. Just when I thought we were clear, DS started getting it - that was on Monday.

DH has some very rare weekend time off and we had planned to take the kids to a wildlife park near us on Saturday. Bearing in mind that DS is only 3 months old and so will not be running around breathing on other kids, AIBU to take him to the park, even if his pox haven't gone crusty?

Although this is irrelevant, I should add that I am going MAD stuck in the house all the time and that DD is really looking forward to Saturday.

Bit curious about this as DD3 is currently in the throws of chicken pox. I have still had to take DD1 and DD2 (who she caught it from)to school etc so she has been out and about. What can you do if she have the lives of other children that need to continue but no family etc close by to do all the jobs for you like the pharmacy trip/school run etc?

I go against the grain and say YANBU. Unless DS2 is feeling really miserable and grotty I would go but just keep my distance from other families. Are you going??

I understand your frustration. You sound like you really want to be reasonable

I feel very stongly about this issue. I dont know if I have written about it on MNs before but I think it bears repeating.

My DD had cancer, she had no immune system because the chemo buggered it. CP was dangerous to her and all her friends on the ward. We had to have her little bro vaccinated against it as he hadnt had it yet. We tried really hard to make her life normal but she was so poorly and we had to grab every 'good' day. She did catch
CP whilst on a very rare trip out. It didnt kill her but it made her very ill and caused a lot of pain. Because she had CP the doctors assumed the pain was due to the infection. Infact she had relapsed, the cancer was back with a vengence and she was in agony. It consequently took the doctors longer to get on top of her pain and realise she had relapsed. They couldnt have saved her but she wouldnt have suffered quite as much as she did. And she really did suffer an awful lot as a direct result of that CP.

I wish she hadnt have got CP. I know it wouldnt have stopped her dying but it would have prevented one of the most traumatic episodes of her illness. I still have flashbacks.

I know it probably sounds dramatic. It is true though. Its hard to imagine the impact CP can have on a sick or vunerable child. How could someone know if they hadnt seen it? So I really dont think YABU for wanting to take the chance but I hope you dont.

chegirl, I'm so sorry to hear that. It's easy not to the think of the consequences, isn't it?

Although ds is a lot better and mainly crusty, we're not going to go on Saturday. Something else has come up though; my fab sis has just got engaged and is having a do on Sunday. She has warned everyone coming that ds has the pox so people will be aware. It's at my parent's house, so there won't be anyone else around for us to infect. I offered to stay away but she said she'd rather we were there and that if anyone didn't want to come because we are poxy then she'd understand, which is lovely. And I get out of the fecking house for an afternoon.