to tell dh to wash his own fecking socks from now on?

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Background: we both work. Half the week I leave the house just after 5am and when I am gone early, dh gets the kids to school, he also does most of the cooking. In return, I do all of the house work and most of the washing and "organise" the dcs' lives.

Last night, I had just gone to bed (having just sorted and folded the washing) when dh comes in and says "when you sort loads of washing, can you make sure that you put both socks of a pair in the same load" (dirty washing just goes in a big laundry basket).

I replied jokily that he was lucky I didn't shove the socks up his nose - he said he was just trying to be "helpful". He then cosied up for some groping and I told him to entertain himself with a pair of socks.

So my question to you is AIBU to want to insert his socks where the sun don't shine or should I have treated this as a helpful suggestion?

My DH has these instructions:

Socks must be fully unfurled and the ends lightly tucked in to each other (but NOT balled up) before going in the laundry basket.

Underkeks must be left the right way out before going in the laundry basket but all other items must be turned inside out, all pockets emptied, sleeves rolled down etc.

Keks that have been skidded will be pre-soaked (by dh) and rinsed (by dh) before going in the wash.

Otherwise, the washing fairy doesn't visit.

Yes well IMO men have very stupid ways of being 'helpful' so YANBU

Hmm. I periodically get the same kind of 'helpful' comment from DH.

I 'helpfully' point out that if he doesn't like the way I do the washing, he can bloody well do it himself.

I usually get a good four or five months before the next occurrence.

I will not wash socks that are balled up. I am NOT putting my hands in those ick.

I also have a strange 'thing' about socks that are clean and not balled but just sort of tucked together at the end.

It makes me feel sick. I have no idea why.

Humph. DHs socks always go in the same wash because the silly sod went and bought a load with wool in (instead of the cotton ones I'd always bought). I didn't realise and he complained they didn't feel so nice after washing ... they need their own special non-bio wash . So they have their own special basket... into which DH never puts them himself. Grrr.

So I get them washed, dried and paired (how can he have so many nearly but noticably NOT identical socks?) and he complains if the pairs come apart in his drawer. I don't like balling them!

Thanks all! Have just read all of your posts.

Sock clips - there is clearly a whole world out there that I know nothing of!

By thw way, I should have added, that when I suggested that he entertain himself with some socks, his response was "I do, often", so clearly DH's relationship with his socks is more intimate than I might have at first suggested!

maybe this is why he seems so sock-obsessed! Veeeery interesting...

Maybe, in addition to sewing them together, you could embroider little faces on them for him. Such a supportive wife!

However, in your place, I would be less inclined to handle the things, once they had been (ahem) 'worn' .

Eewww, I hadn't really considered that. I may now need to resort to rubber gloves to delve into the laundry basket!

I have solved the big sock quest with Dh - I bought 14 pairs exactly the same. Now we only have matching socks.

I am thinking of doing the same with the DCs.

Clothes get washed in darks and white loads. I put in what comes out he basket first and wouldn't have a clue if it is a matching pair going in or not. It so does not matter, all the washing is done until the basket is empty or there isn't enough for a load so the sock will only be without his partner for a day or so. Tell him to buy more socks if he is that bothered.

FBG - that is exactly the way I do it. However, thanks to dh's "helful" suggestion, I am now considering carefully removing all socks and leaving them to him.

Sock clips. Sock Clips.

There is not enough love in the world that would make me clip socks together for a man.

DP has just black socks or white (sports) socks. Is for some reason I have put an odd number of socks in the wash (god SMITE ME now) the odd one gets left in the laundry basket for sorting after the next wash.

If DP complained about this state of affairs I would brain him.

My DH does all his own laundry, we have two laundry baskets in our bedroom, one each. We started doing this when I was working but I haven't seen any reason to take it on again since I stopped work.

It's actually much smoother for us than when I was doing all the laundry because he would forget to tell me if he needed something clean for a particular occasion and then get upset because it wasn't. I do all the other laundry in the house (bedding, towels, kids clothes) and I fold and put away. DH puts his own wash on and hangs it on the airer, I pile it on his side of the bed when it's dry and he puts it away.

YANBU

I didn't mean to suggest we should clip their socks together - just that if it bothered him so much, he could clip them together when he put them in the baket. That would make it his responsibility, since he'd be the only one who was bothered...

But yes, he should be happy that his socks go from dirty to clean and dry, and not whinge about the details unless he plans to put the work in himself.

My DH once asked me to only wash pairs of socks - so I do (when I can remember). It would never have occurred to me to be pissed off about it. A perfectly reasonable request: like when I ask him not to crunch his crisps so loudly

Please note that when DH does the laundry he only washes my socks in pairs.

Lol MuminScotland - but it's a slippery slope. First sock clips, then flowery bags to put your clothes pegs in, then you start buying laundry accessories from Betterware, and then - suddenly - you have turned into someone who takes pride in and enjoys her laundry activites (aka my mum)

(To answer the original question: yes - YABU. Life is too short to argue about such trivial matters)

I'm not sure I'm pissed off about it MamaLazarou, merely wondering whether, as he is so fussy, he shouldn't wash his own socks. There is nowhere in my life that I could (or would want to) find the time from to sort through the washing basket to pair socks!

Oh. From the original post "should I tell him to wash his own fecking socks from now on" and your angry reaction to him instigating sex afterwards, it did seem as though you were pissed off about it.

I have about 40 odd socks in a bucket in my utility room. Anyone want them? I hate waste.

We have a 'lonely socks club' drawer, and every now and again I organise a little mingling session to see if I can matchmake them. I really should give up on that and use them for stuffing (sewing, not chicken).

Every single sock in the lonely socks club drawer is a black ankle sock - yet none of them match. How does that work?!!

I hate the balled up sock thing drivves me mad.
Have asked DH not to do it so many times.
If they are balled up I leave them in the basket and then if he has no clean socks its his own fault

lol, when i forst got married my dh said something similar, i told him that if he paired them before putting them in the washing basket i may be able to do it, his responce

"my mum always managed it"

needless to say that was teh first and last time he ever said that, now he never dares mention th housework!

Oh God that's wonderful Leonifay! PMSL . My DP has a special face he wears for that kind of statement - sort of wide-eyed and innocent. Poor, sweet deluded sap, blundering into the wrath of Woman.

You gotta love those guys!