to fecking hate fathers day!

[drlove8]

I think its a bit of a joke tbh, there are thousands of deadbeat dads who have kids here there and everywhere and dont lift a finger to help raise the children.I personally know two who are utter shits to their kids and still expect at least a card today. It's also a bit rubbish for the children who have no parent(S).Do they need reminded of what they havent got? I would love to scrap the whole fathers day/ mothers day and replace it with a special persons day. That way you could have a favorite auntie/granma/best friend instead to share the day with. most dads i know have used the day as an excuse to bugger off to the pub.... How does that make them a good DAD?

i agree with Hecate

Fine Mother's Day/Father's Day if you don't mind being told that's it is indeed the correct 'Day' to pay thru the nose for various objects of tat/yet more chocolates/booze/waste-of-a-tree greetings card, but isn't it nicer to be appreciative all year round?

Spontaneity (sp?) is much nicer, and doesn't have to involve a puke-inducing card implying that they are a Star, Number 1, etc when they aren't necessarily.

wish my dad was here too, so i could send him a card and tell him how much i love him.

DH has had a great day - been to play golf AND in the pub !

happy fathers day indeed

I remember waiting excitedly for my Dad to wake up on Father's Day to give him the probably terrible card I'd made and some homemade present he wouldn't have known what to do with. At the time I felt like the best daughter in the world making him so happy with my efforts. Obviously as an adult I can now see he was probably 'putting it on' somewhat! But if I can give my boys a little of the same magic by helping them do something for their Dad, I can't see that's a bad thing.

I thought we'd have a nice day yesterday but DH was a complete twat in the evening so I threw the mug that I'd bought him on the floor having a childish tantrum emoticon and

I get teh any day of the year bit, but Dad lives a long way away (welllong enough) and most of they year not only can I not just find the £5 for petrol and tolls, he'd yell at me for wasting cash; Father's day (or rather the weekend before this year) I can justify it, there's a r4eason I can give Dad. he does want to see us BTW LOL, just we've had a rough time financially lately and he's a kindly fella these days- the 'bad dad' of the apst went when the booze did (for which I am proud and grateful).

It amde the boys focus as well. yes we coulod set aside a random day but I think it would feel a bit silly- whereas all teh school stuff / Church service / etc stuff makes it even nicer and mroe festive.

(and my boys amde their cards 9well the ones who can)- so meaningful not a waste of tree! Gifts from DH's book list. Fab.

We made a fuss of dh yesterday. dd2 went shopping and chose his presents herself

He got a helium balloon, a not very tasteful sstatuette for the garden (which she loved) and a book. I think that having a father's day is a good idea, because it focuses children's minds on what their dads do. Yes it is sad for those who do not have a dad at home (my dad died when I was 13 so I do understand). However, it is good for children to reflect on what fathers do actually do, because it is not always much fun being a dad. My dc usually ignore their dad when he arrives home from work, and have no idea how upsetting it is for him.

I would like to book mark this thread to show to those who whine next Mother's Day that they have to get up and breathe by themselves.

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Neither me nor DH have fathers worthy of cards or presents (or even acknowledgement) and have always felt left out on Fathers Day.

Next year will be different, as we will have a 5-month-old baby by then and DH is going to be the best dad in the history of dads.

HOORAY!

YABU and upsetting. My dad died four years ago and he wasn't perfect - he was NEARLY perfect though and was a good and decent man and a wonderful father. I bought him something every year and it didn't matter how small or insignificant it was, he always appreciated and got a little emotional over it.

Fathers day does hurt, and this year i didnt buy him a card because it upset me to even stand in front of them in the shop. But it is lovely for our children lucky enough to have good daddies to be able to buy something for daddy - my DD was fit to bust just because she bought daddy a card for £1 and "wrote" her name in it.