To not want to buy my cheating h a fathers day gift.

[self]

my h was having a "an emotional affair with his trainee who knew that he was a married man am getting over it slowly did ask him for a divorce 3 times this past month as am very angry he says they were texts only.
I feel like not buying a gift as i feel he does not deserve it or am i ?

rebecca i have forgiven him, but am still angry and also i feel that i have been making an effort to getting past this but he has not, we have not gone out alone since our son's birth so he has says skimmy the woman was an ego boost. we were supposed to go out this sat but his parents are visiting so can't, he is also taking our son to his godson's birthday party as i have said no more friends outing's till we have done our own outing.

Sounds as though you are trying to make it work then, shame he didn't make more effort to put his parents off, I'd have been annoyed at him putting them before the marriage, and may have threatened to tell them what their son had been up to if he didn't put them off and tell them you needed time together.
Agree this will only work if he's willing to put emotional effort into the marriage and start treating you as his lover as well as the wife of his children.