annoyed that nobody has come to visit DC4

[Nemoandthefishes]

she was born on sat and came home on sunday and has not had a single visitor. I understand friends who have all been rather nice and called and booked in times to visit etc but PIL and my mum and sisters have not been to see her or even phoned to see how she is doing. am feeling really peeved towards them like the birth of dd3 is a non event in their lives!!

AAwwww Nemo that is really sad (for them and DD3) - I would be over in a flash if we werent full of colds here - she looks gorgeous!

Hopefully they will come this weekend to see you all.

well DD3 has had her first visitor in the form of stoppinattwo
I did ask if she had seen my moaning thread but she hadnt.
Still not heard from my family and DH has just phoned his parents who have asked if everyone is ok but thats it.

Congratulations!
I expect that all your potential visitors have been reading mumsnet and think (from many posters) that you have had a hard time and deserve peace and quiet, that you need time to 'bond' with your baby and that even grandparents are selfish to want to see their grandchild within the first 3 weeks!!!

congrats Nemo, that was a quick 9 months!!!

Hope all are well and the big dcs are enjoying the new baby

she is fab, she is gorgeous and she has the cutest feet

All I can say nemo is they dont know what they are missing...

Oh yes and she can burp like a trooper

DD thinks baby nemo is gorgeous too....
she was very impressed with her little squeaks she said

I think you need to invite them specifically. it sounds like they don't want to intrude.

YANBU I have four brothers and sisters and only one of them (my fabulous eldest sister) has met DD2 who is 9 weeks today.
Their loss.

Many congratulations, she sounds wonderful.

Oh Nemo, I didnt think this would be your thread, I expected them to have been to see you already. Especially as you have just been away with PIL- wtf are they playing at?

Incidentally I am gagging to come and see you but have no car and am not walking up the M62, much as I love you! Am glad stoppin has been to see you, hope you are all ok xxx

YABU. If you want to show off your child so badly (and, in reality, that's what this boils down to, as opposed to seeing if people care), then take the child to see the relatives or personally invite them round. People are busy and have their own lives to live - unfortunately, your DCs may not fall that high on their list of priorities (family or not) or they may think you have your hands too full to receive visitors.

I had my DS1 7 weeks ago and have had some people visit. Others haven't (family and friends) and I don't hold it against them. Frankly, I understand that most people I know work full-time, have other things going on in their lives and any free time they get is precious and limited [as it was for me when I was working ft]. Automatically taking it as a personal slight (as opposed to ringing/inviting them and giving them the opportunity to explain [or not!] why they may not have been able to call/visit) is rather unfair and, dare I say it, self-centred IMO

Just spend the time enjoying having your DC4 to yourself.

Asana, what an odd post.
A new addition to a family should be the most exciting thing ever, not something to be pencilled into a "busy" schedule.
I don't think that is self-centred to want your family to visit their new grandaughter/neice. Not in the slightest.

Congrats, Nemo by the way.

My last post was very much tongue in cheek, but seriously, people may be considering you and not wanting to intrude. I have argued long and hard on other threads that a baby is a joyous event to celebrate with friends and family. It has been a minority view-the majority have all been about the DP policing visits, people being very selfish to even want to see the baby much less want a cup of tea(some posters don't want them making their own cup either). MILs especially are not wanted in the first 3 weeks. It is all about my baby. Two recent posts have been about mothers not even wanting people to touch their baby-never mind hold!
I would phone them up and invite them so that they know you want visitors.

I don't think so Lizzylou.

Her DC4 will not know now or ever (unless her mum chooses to mention it) who did or didn't come to visit in her first few weeks. A baby could not care less (and in fact has no clue) who visits them; rather, in this case, it's the mother that knows and, by proxy, the mother that cares. Therefore it is self-centred.

Children are precious little things and a new addition to the family is, of course, exciting. However, people have other things going on in their lives, be it work or personal. By definition, if someone visits you, they are fitting you into their schedule, busy or not. To simply presume that they should and can drop everything to call you or run over to your bedside is self-centred; perhaps understandably so, but self-centred nonetheless.

Nemo and her DC are not suddenly going to disappear off the face of the earth. There will be so many opportunities for people to visit them for several years yet. Therefore to think that there is some prescribed "timeline/standard" to which family or friends should adhere to is unreasonable.