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Original poster

to think it serves D right for getting her mnobile confiscated but also a little hacked off that now she has to spend a week without one.

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EccentricaGallumbits · 16/06/2009 17:33

DD was texting in class so has has her mobile confiscated. Bloody good thing too. May teach her not to do it again.

on the other hand she now has to walk to and from school (2 miles each way) on her own without a mobile, in case of emergencies, for the rest of the week.

Perhaps a light beating and allowing her to keep the mobile would have been a more suitable punishment. At least then I wouldn't have to worry about her being abducted or breaking her legs on the way to school.

I'm sleep deprived and confused.

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janeite · 17/06/2009 20:05

There ought to be a specific school policy (so Flatcap taking it in herself and making her own rules, in most schools would be a no, no, as it is then open to abuse/debate/individual culpability if phone lost etc).

I think the best way is that it is confiscated, held in a secure school office with a label and then parents have to come in and get it. That way the child might follow the rules next time!

However, if you are worried then it is your responsibility as a parent to find other ways of ensuring her safety to and from school this week - a mobile phone isn't going to be THAT much use to her generally anyway - it is more for your peace of mind.

Do you think you or the school should administer the light beating?!

I'm sure she'll be fine - might make her think twice next time to have been inconvenienced (and inconvenienced you) in this way.

nappyaddict · 17/06/2009 20:16

I would be annoyed if I had to walk, get a bus, and 2 trains just to collect a stupid phone. It would be my punishment not my childs.

janeite · 17/06/2009 20:18

But isn't that the point? Inconveniencing the parents ensures that parents work at home to enfore the school rules, therefore child knows not to break said rules because parent will flip!

nannyL · 17/06/2009 20:19

Im sure you would be annoyed

i expect you would convey this annoyance to your child, with extra chores / less pocket money etc and then the child might obey school rules in future

I too made my way 11 miles to and from school without a phone... and i too did it (for a year) WITH a broken leg after i was run over (and my leg was nearly amputated!)

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EccentricaGallumbits · 17/06/2009 20:33

I don't have to go and retrieve mobile in person. she'd never get it back if i had to.

I haven't been cross with her. just pointed out it is entirely her own fault it was taken away. Of course she has managed to get to school and bck without incident like we did in the old days. well almost, apart from being chased and eaten by bears. but a mobile wouldn't have saved her, unless she threw it at them.

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SoupDragon · 17/06/2009 20:37

How on earth I managed to get to and from school safely without a mobile phone I'll never know.

flatcapandpearls · 17/06/2009 21:09

I agree Janeite there needs to be a school policy that everyone sticks to, a school's greatest weakness is inconsistency.

Our school policy is take the phone if it is seen at any point during the school day, put it in a sealed envelope and to the office to await parental collection.

This year I have had to confiscate one phone. At my previous school whic was a very challenging one I used to confiscate about a half term maybe more at the beginning when they were sussing out who was a soft touch.

nickschick · 17/06/2009 21:13

I had a similar problem and I managed to sort it out with school using this viewpoint - these mobile fones arent cheap things to lose if that fone gets lost or misplaced whilst in the 'confiscation drawer' are school willing to accept responsibility for it?- Im not disputing my ds or your dd were wrong to use the fone in school time and there does need to be some 'punishment' but confiscation for a week is rather ott.

flatcapandpearls · 17/06/2009 21:17

I think we are liable if the phone is lost, my old school was billed for a lost mobile. But if we follow te instructions label it and straight to the school safe they should not get lost. If they are not cheap things get them a cheaper one, or don't get them one - I dont have a mobile and manage- or dont allow them to take them into school.

janeite · 17/06/2009 21:19

Phone.

If lost from the school's so-called 'secure' area there would be an issue. Generally though, schools claim no liability if phones are stolen/lost etc.

flatcapandpearls · 17/06/2009 21:25

I know in a case at my old school the teacher or maybe the school had to pay the money but that may have been because the teacer did not follow school policy and put the phone in a secure place.

TheFallenMadonna · 17/06/2009 21:29

I don't think it's OTT actually. It will hardly have come as a surprise. All our students are well aware of the rules. And this wasn't just a glimpse of a phone where it shouldn't be (ie in view) - she was actually texting in a lesson.

I answered a mobile phone that went off in my lesson once, years ago now. It was the student's mum

SoupDragon · 17/06/2009 21:40

It's a phone, not a fone. [sheesh]

janeite · 17/06/2009 21:42

Soupie - you said it so much more eloquently than I did - I just tried to sneak it in through the back door!

SoupDragon · 17/06/2009 21:43

[intolerant]

scienceteacher · 17/06/2009 21:44

Mobile phones are the scourge of many schools. If a child has been using them in lessons, then they deserve the full punishment. I can't really think of many misdemeanours that are worse, tbh.

I confiscate about 3 mobile phones a year (usually by the October half-term). They can only be returned directly to parents.

The system works.

Please do not defend your child's mobile phone use at school.

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EccentricaGallumbits · 17/06/2009 21:52

um.
i don't think i was.

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piscesmoon · 17/06/2009 21:54

Children used to be perfectly capable of getting to school and back in the days before mobile phones!

janeite · 17/06/2009 21:56

Science teacher - she wasn't defending her child for having the phone out in class. That's where the beatings came in!

flatcapandpearls · 17/06/2009 21:57

I have seen schools bought to a standstill on a number of occasions by the use of mobile phones.

Once pupils were texting pupils at a neighbouring school to incite a fight, the pupils from the "rival" school threatened to turn up with knives. Our pupils texted each other and arranged to all run out of school at the same time. I was pregnant at the time, thrown against a wall in the stampede and later miscarried my child. This was at least 8 years ago when phones were not as popular.

On a less serious scale when we had snow our usually well bahved pupils got in a panic abut being stranded in school and started phoning their parents to collect them. Again caused chaos.

TheFallenMadonna · 17/06/2009 21:59

Ah now we told our students to get out their phones when our school was closed because of snow. Saved a lot of phoning sround for the support staff

flatcapandpearls · 17/06/2009 22:00

Our schools wasn't closed the cheeky blighters decided they wanted to go home. They were teling their parents we had shut so they were driving in quite treacherous conditions to pick them up. We then got stick from the press for closing the school when we didn;t!

bigeyes · 17/06/2009 22:17

Well phones are very annoying in midst of lesson especially when they and others around them are awaiting reply. I have been kicked by a student when trying to confiscate one.

BUT when you work in a department where there are no calculators and the topic requires them, they do come in handy (6th form only)!

Just as menacing is earphones under long har from ipods inc many boys - with their long straightend hair!

However you can put mini PPT revisions onto mobiles and podcasts things for learning purposes!

Five peneth over

bigeyes · 17/06/2009 22:19

Oh flatcap thats terrible thing are you still teaching?

flatcapandpearls · 17/06/2009 22:29

Yes I took five years out as soon as I discovered I was pregnant again. But am teaching now and love it.

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