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to let DD have only water/milk to drink?

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NormaSknockers · 16/06/2009 11:29

Because my SIL in particular seems to think I am!

DD is 3 next week & has always had water to drink during the day, at meal times etc & then a cup of milk at bedtime.

It's what she's always known, if she asks for a drink she knows it will be water & doesn't think anything of it. If we go out then I usually take a bottle of water with me for her. Occassionaly she'll have some orange/apple juice & as a special treat she gets 'pink milk' (small drop of strawberry milkshake in her milk).

It's not like she NEVER has anything else but admittidly very rarely.

When we go to partys etc she'll just usually have the water we brought with us but obviously if she's offered juice then she can have that I don't take it off her but she knows it's a treat.

Anyway (sorry waffling) my SIL seems to think I'm most odd for not letting DD have fizzy drinks etc etc & is forever trying to sneak Lemonade/Cherryade/anything fizzy to DD behind my back when we have family events etc & gets really stroppy about it if I tell her DD isn't allowed it.

I really don't see the issue, surely the fact that DD mainly drinks water is a good thing?

AI really B that U?

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sarah293 · 16/06/2009 15:34

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 16/06/2009 15:36

YANBU.

DH is notorious for giving DD fizz, but he will only do it as a treat as I have told him off!

DD gets, for the most part water. On the odd occasion as a treat she will have a little orange juice watered down considerably, and DH gives her pink milk as a treat too.

She had no problems with drinking water when she asks for a drink, it is what she is usually given and there is never a fuss.

brettgirl2 · 16/06/2009 15:41

I'm sure it's better to be addicted to diet coke than whisky. However, I do buy the example thing and will have to not keep any in the house if I am to stop dd drinking it

sarah293 · 16/06/2009 15:49

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brettgirl2 · 16/06/2009 16:00

That actually made me feel better - I don't drink 12 cans a day .

I'm very about the woman from coca cola describing the ingredients as 'wholesome' however!

kitkatqueen · 17/06/2009 20:59

I'm a secret dr pepper drinker

Thank goodness I don't drink coke

chipkid · 17/06/2009 21:02

my children used to drink squash, fruit shoots and the odd fizzy drink when out. They both had flu at Christmas and now will not touch anything but water-really odd, but better for them.

chegirl · 17/06/2009 21:12

YANBU at all. Its not like you are terrifying your LO into abstinance!
I think you are being sensible. You let her have a bit of squash or whatever if its offered at a party.

It sounds like you have the balance just right. Not strict enough to make her crave fruit shoots and redbull but not relaxed enough to encourage bad habits.

mumtoone · 17/06/2009 21:32

My ds is 5.5 and still drinks milk or water virtually all the time. He may have a little squash at a party but thats it. He is more than happy with this.

peppapig3 · 17/06/2009 21:44

YANBU! Of course it is best to restrict fizy drinks, squash, etc in a small child. Your SIL is being unreasonable and perhaps a litle immature!

Qally · 17/06/2009 21:57

I never had fizzy crap. As a result, I am an adult who absolutely hates sickly sugary fizzy crap. I love chocolate and so on, am perfectly normal (well - food wise!) and I'm grateful for not having my mother develop a taste in me for teeth-rotting empty calories.

I plan to do exactly the same with my ds.

Blondeshavemorefun · 18/06/2009 09:06

yanbu

there is no reason for a child to have anything apart from water and milk tbh

but as they grow older and see other people have different drinks they want to try

dc1 didnt have ribena till about 5, dc2 started just before he was 3 as saw dc1 drink it, dc3 who is nearly 1,will prob want it next week

she wont be having it till she is older!!

all juice/squash etc is well diluted

and i dont allow children have fizzy drinks,prob not till they are maybe 10 or so

AliGrylls · 18/06/2009 09:47

YA 100% NBU. Up until the age of 5 children should only have milk and water - the sugar is not good for them.

I have a degree in nutrition and PGdip dietetics. You are very sensible and they are wrong.

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NormaSknockers · 18/06/2009 13:24

I read that as PGtip dietetics

I'm really pleased to see that many other mums do the same re drinks, I have a few friends who also think I'm being 'daft' or 'pathetic' for not letting DD have squash/fizzy/FS's etc etc on a regular basis (we don't even buy it as neither me or DH drink it either so in this house all we ever have to offer is water, milk, tea of coffee!)

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Peachy · 18/06/2009 13:32

YANBU, your choice and all that

Though equally IANBU to allow children other drinks: as such you might find it difficult as a policy to manage post toddler years.

Your SIL is being naughty, and I em envious really as mine can't have milk and water is a no-go as well (for genuine reasons).

Peachy · 18/06/2009 13:33

(there are a few reasons BTW Blondes and ali, just really rare ones. is all )

GrimmaTheNome · 18/06/2009 13:35

YANBU.

lots of small kids don't like fizzy drinks anyway. at parties where you have to go and beg the staff for cups of water because there isn't even still squash.

noddyholder · 18/06/2009 13:35

I think thats fine.My ds only had those until he was a lot older and even then it was v weak juice.The first time he tasted a fizzy drink coke I think he said it burned him .He drinks coke now though with his mates but still water and milk a lot and he's 15

noddyholder · 18/06/2009 13:36

I think thats fine.My ds only had those until he was a lot older and even then it was v weak juice.The first time he tasted a fizzy drink coke I think he said it burned him .He drinks coke now though with his mates but still water and milk a lot and he's 15

Blondeshavemorefun · 18/06/2009 15:41

reasons? like what peachy?

always happy to learn new facts

Peachy · 18/06/2009 16:00

Blonde, my ds1 and ds3 have bits in their statements at school as they are autistic and have an absolute abhorrence of water (they're intol of milk).

If they ahve water they either refuse it (ds1 almost ended up in hospital with severe dehydration after school refused to bend on it yeras ago) or spit it (that'smore severe ds3).

it's behavioural as opposed to dietary but very valid- they have soya drink (sadly only calcium fortified you can get in mini cartons is falvoured but I tried) or very dilutte juice; ds1 atmhas an innocent smoothie- a big yay as he wasnt drinking anything between waking and school for a long while, he's flagged up with eating disorders as well, probably anorexia though we are managing at home with Paed backup ATM.

Blondeshavemorefun · 18/06/2009 16:12

i see - i didnt know that - thanks for explaining

and fwiw i think innocent smoothies are fab!!!

and yummy

blonde is very fond of the banana and strawberry one

Peachy · 18/06/2009 16:14

They do them in little sachets in tesco now, with the pouch yoghurts

very handy!

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