Can you help my friend....

[Flowertop]

Hi have very good friend who has DS1 10. An incident with him at school has resulted in one of his peers being expelled. It seems that her DS was held down by 3 boys during play and one got out his penis and pushed into his face. It has even been said that the other boys tried to force open her DS' mouth (for what I think you can guess. The boy who took out his penis has been expelled (independant boys school) and my lovely friend is really upset about the whole situation. The mother blames my friend and her family and believes that there was an over reaction which could have been sorted out with a face to face meeting. 3 other parents threatened to keep their boys at home unless an expulsion was made. How can I help friend to believe that to expel the boys was the only real course of action.

howmuchdidyousay What??

Kimi he is still a child, whatever he has done. You suggest with your quotation marks that he does not deserve the title of boy. What else would you call him? It doesn't say in the OP but I assume he is 10 years old also. Old enough to know better but still only a child.

Of course the OP's friend's child is the victim here but you don't know what is going on that childs mind or what has gone on in his life for him to be behaving like that, even if nothing he really needs help too.

Firstly - I think its the unfortunate truth that trolls get everywhere nowerdays... Its quite natural to be suspicious but I'm sorry you were reacted to like this when you're just trying to get help.

I agree with drlove8 - I'd be going to the police as well. I'm not suprised that your friend is upset. Though, at the same time, I understand how the other mother is outraged. She must be embarssed. Especially considering its an independant school, expulsion for indecent exposure and assult will never look good...

Is your friends son okay? Any kind of verbal or physical assult, especially one with a sexual air about it, can deeply upset anyone, but children of that age are especially vunerable... I really hope he's getting the support he needs...

many 10 yr olds are still over-excitable silly little boys .So much here depends on the context.
A group of friends could have been messing about wrestling on the ground and one of them farts in anothers face and another retaliates by shoving their willy in their face.
To me ,that wouldn't warrant expulsion