that when I order a burger and explain to the waitress DS is dairy allergic not to expect it to come with cheese and then for her to put it in front of him?

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And did mention that he's anaphylactic

Because I'd rather be wrong about than for it to happen again!

i think i'm just going to stop eating out when dd3 is old enough to request food. its just too risky. was bad enough on holiday when i saw the people on the table before us had spilt milk, and even though it had been wiped i was still on edge.

dd4, i mean. not dd3. well unless they start serving up cats

misdee, it will get easier. you will fret still, but once you actually know all her allergies, and she has the right treatment, and you are confident at home and at other peoples homes, eating out will improve.

and like I say, when you find a fabulous place, you will stick to it

glad it does get easier.

The waitress may well have put the order in as 'dairy free' but the kitchen served it up with cheese and she (maybe very, very busy)did not check.

I would have specified no butter or cheese rather than no dairy, which does require some food classification knowledge. Some people just think dairy=milk. You can easily send it back and get one without cheese, although if resaurant is busy that may take a while.
It's very rare for people to have anaphylaxis with dairy products though, usually it's more food intolerance. Your sprog is very unlucky.

ooh, am in the 'very rare' society.....((not that that is a good thing tho))

Fair point. I need to specify, 'no cheese, no milk, no butter...'

Yes, DS is very unlucky. It started out as a dairy intolerance, but his consultant at Children's Hospital said to treat it as anaphylactic after he went into convulsions a few months ago. Hope he out grows it....

am hoping dd4 is not anaphylaxtic, but has a nasty allergy to milk anyway.

I see what people are saying about specifying, but it seems a sad state of affairs when a chef/cook whatever in a restaurant does not know that dairy includes cheese.

you're not being unreasonable but if their first language wasn't English I would say no dairy - and that means absolutely no butter or cheese.

thick and poorly trained