to tell a bullys mum to fck off

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i posterd last week on 3 teenages ,who passed nasty comments obout my son whos got sn/gdd one of the boys mum came today [and yesterday] as my dd16 had a go at him and today she supposed to have kicked him !!!she storms round to my house giving the "gob and finger"and saying hes 15 well he is not hes 16 he was as school with my dd [was a sod then]not that im saying mines no angel ,her son called my son whos 2 a "spazz/mong " and i hate them words so i lost my cool and told her to fck off im so x10 and telling me shes off to the police to get her done for assult fgs im so ticked off now as hell ....

What a vile woman to call a 2 year old child names.

yes i saw her yesterday and she said,i hope you told your dd not to kick ny ds ,who by the way are both 16 ,so i said well yor son should not call my ds2 whos only 2.6 names ,so she walked away .. but i know by a few people up by her as she says shes a fruit loop and always causing bother,

Im not going to comment on the other posts but I do have some practical advice for you.

Your dd at 15 is old enough to be cautioned for threatening behaviour and she sounds the sort of person to know this and act on it-then your claims about her ds become kind of a tit for tat argument.

Her son is totally in the wrong.

What I suggest you do is call the police and explain to the visiting officer(possibly will be a community support officer) the situation -the officer may then be able to 'warn' the other boy and his 'mother' to stop this behaviour -do not encourage your dd to 'fight back' do not yourself have any conversation with the 'mother'.

Step back and deal with this in the proper channels.

firstly dd is 16 ,she came to my house givng me the finger/gob !! so i defended myself like any other mum would ,my ds2 is only 2.6 so of course my dd is going to stick up for her little brother also you go on about the cso/pc, they are rare as rocking horse poo!! at the end of the day my 2 older kids are no angels,but they know better to call kids/adults whith sn names !!!!

The other mum has no right moaning when her son has been so vile. If my 2 insulted an SN child like that I'd be horrified (and they're no angels either!)

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I think the child insulted is vulnerable, but the insulter isn't in this case. The boy got a kick because tempers were lost in the heat of what was said.

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What nickschick says makes a lot of sense. I really dont get the feeling she was criticising you ilove rather giving you v.good advice.

This sort of thing happens a lot round her. I was amazed at how grown women carry on when I moved here. I had moved in from a dead rough area but this was all to me.

I have made some very good friends and when sort of thing happened to them I talked them round to doing things 'proper' rather than the way they used to. I told them to call the police, explain the situation and make a log of all incidents. NOT to retaliate any further and let the aggressor know what was going on.

It really worked. It shocked the hell out of the slappers who made a career of starting trouble.

I totally understand why your family has said and done the things they have. I really dont blame you at all.

But there is a danger of this going on and on. The other family probably love all the excitement and have no shame. You on the other hand will probably get more and more stressed.

If the back and forth continues it will get harder and harder for the police to see who is in the wrong.

If this family are in social housing, anti social behaviour should be taken very seriously. If you are you dont want the situation turned against you.

Good luck

Hell - who needs Eastenders when you have MN, eh??

Oh im sorry I just checked 'posts im on' and I see you think i was having a go at you - truly i wasnt .

Its just ive seen a lot of these disputes and really and truly short of fighting in the street everytime -you cannot win,the only way to go is 'official' by logging and reporting everytime you may be able to get an harrasment thing against them.

Im sorry you are going through this I have teenagers myself and I would be livid and disgusted with this behaviour if they were doing this.

Please dont let your dd become the aggressor in this situation.

no she wont report me as shes well known for trouble making ,the police are always at there house ,she once called the police and said the fam next door had tryed to gas her so they could rape her and she once was on our green in daylight doing handstands ,with her bra/nickers on ,

ive also got my hands full dh has fits aswell and strees is not good for him hes been in hospital afew times this month whith them

omfg .....keep away from the loon lol

So you really wont win an row with her will you?

If she is that mad she wont take any notice of your carefully reasoned arguements or irate rantings.

Best do it the other way. At least its logged and you can get an injuction or something if this escalates.

Imagine the fun of seeing the old slapper carted away by the old bill.

Seriously She does sound like she has some mental health issues. There is just no point arguing if she is not able to listen.

tis true im not joking , you should hear the storys she comes out with ,so funny i cry with laughter sometimes

I know when other kids are vile to my ds with sn I just see red too. He has enough to deal with without that. And, of course it was wrong IF your dd kicked the boy (do you only have the loon's word for that?), but, you know, my ds1 doesn't stand up for his brother, because he's scared and embarrassed. And I'm quite sad about that, though I'm not blaming him in any way.

What a horrible thing for you to deal with.

(Your first post was impressively mad though!)