to be annoyed with PIL visiting unannounced

[woozlet]

Ever since we have had DS (4 months old) DH's parents, and sister for that matter no longer seem to respect our privacy and turn up at our house (often at meal times). I wouldn't mind so much if they just phoned first but I hate being taken by surprise like that. Especially if the house is messy or I am going around in DH's boxers and t shirts.

So, AIBU or should I be pleased they want to come and see us

I don't see why anyone would not phone first to check it's convenient to visit someone though. To me it seems very selfish to visit without phoning first. It's like saying "my desire to visit you when I feel like it is more important than your desire for privacy or to do something else in that time"
I know people did it all the time in the "olden days" but in these days of widespread phone use it just seems selfish and rude.

I feel your pain! I'm pregnant with DC1 and am already enduring a whole lot of pain from MIL. I arrived home from work at 6.30pm the other day to find her on my doorstep. She'd driven 60 miles to look at my tummy... I know they're just being sweet, but come on, having a baby doesn't mean waving goodbye to any sort of privacy!

Unannounced visitors are a total pain.

My MIL used to go round uninvited to her daughter's house.

When SIL wouldn't answer the door because she was having a sleep or just didn't feel like visitors, MIL would stand on the door step, with her finger jammed onto the doorbell, using her mobile to call SIL's mobile and got FIL to call SIL's landline from work. SIL still wouldn't answer the door and this would go on for 20 minutes.

SIL moved 60 miles away last year and their relationship has never been better since!

I thank god I live over 150 miles away from MIL.

Winky, can;t believe your SIL would let this go on for 20 mins - repeatedly.

I still don;t understand why people don;t nicely tell their parents / inlaws, thanks for popping by, not convenient at the moment, best to call before you come over to check we're not busy. See you later.

FFS we're all adults not 8 year olds but if people keep acting like children, parents will keep treating us like it