to say "no" to dd going abroad with her friend?

[twoluvlykids]

she wants to go to Portugal, with a friend, they're both 14.

staying with her friend's half-brother, whose 30, with a wife, no kids, lives in portugal but in the army so in Germany at the mo.

I've never met this brother, never even met her friend's parents.

I've gently explained why she can't go, she seems ok.

But AIBU? She's quite grown up, not particularly street wise. Am I wrapping her in cotton wool?

I'm really not good at "letting go" in any way, shape or form.

You are NOT BU.

At 18 - maybe. At almost 14 - no way.

yanbu, i have a 14 yr old, no bloody way!

YANBU. I would never agree to this, probably even if I had met the brother, but DEFINITELY not if I had never met him

YANBU at all!

SG

no

YANBU - i didn't go away on my own until i was 18. I travelled unaccompanied since the age of 8 but only holidayed on my own when i was an adult. I did often go off on my own with friends i found on holiday with my parents from around 14 onwards but she is too young and doesn't have a parent around.