To not want to give all my sons old clothes away?

[welshone51]

I have a friend who is a few years younger than me with a partner who has been out of work for a while. Her son is 3 months younger than my son but is on the small size and can still get away with wearing 9-12 months size clothes which my son grew out of around six months ago. I have given her various clothes that my son has grown out of in the past and in fairness to her she always thanks me and her son wears all I have given her.
However she seems to think that all my sons old clothes are going to be given to her son even though my partner has said to me that he wishes to keep hold of a lot of his clothes as we are thinking of trying for another child soon and haven't the money to buy a whole new wardrobe if I have another son.
However my friend has been continually dropping hints for me to give her more clothes and saying her son has no clothes that fits him, she only has 10p in the bank and cant afford to buy him more. She even said to a mutual friend of ours that by the time I give her more clothes her son would have grown out of them. I do feel bad for her but we have had to work hard to clothe my son but I dont like feeling responsible for her son not having anything to wear. I dont know if I have set myself up for this by giving her some clothes in the past. Should I give her the clothes or not? I feel mean but she always seems to be able to buy things for herself- I know this isnt such a big deal but would appreciate some advice?

'YANBU.I'm sure if she asked about there would be plenty of people who would pass stuff on to her.Non-designer kids clothes are valueless secondhand

Your friend is being very unreasonable.

I kept all of DS1's stuff for the next baby and have then handed stuff down to my nephew.

Agree that with the exception of trousers a lot of their clothes just don't handle being constantly worn and washed that well. I threw a lot of t-shirts/knitwear out after ds1 as it was stained/bobbled/lost its shape.

Also you are allowed to be sentimentally attached to some stuff and to keep for posterity.

Or alternatively you could sell it yourself to pay for new clothes for your own child.

matalan has very cheap baby clothes and TK Max has some real bargains and there are good finds in most charity shops.

A friend of mine gives me loads of her dc outgrown clothes for which I'm very grateful for however I would never dream of asking her for them. I think YANBU and its bad manners of your friend to make you feel you are being mean. I'd explain about why you are not going to give away your ds clothes and if she goes in a huff about it maybe you need to rethink this friendship.