how often do you see your parents? aibu to kind of wish mine would get a life of there own?

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before i get flamed can i just say that i love my parents to bits and am so lucky that they take such an interest in my life and dote on my dd's and thank god i still have them around

but

every weekend they come to see us and spend time with us, they stay an hour away so we dont see them at all during the week.

i feel that we cant do nything as a family though without them wanting to come along, this includes day trips, visits to the park, weekends away and now they have decided that when we go away on holiday next year (our first big holiday abroad) they want to come with us.

actually even as i am writing this i realise that its not my dad, he has hobbies that keep him happy but my mum has issues with him doing anything without her so he gets dragged along to ours every weekend as well.

i am actually at the stage now where i am scared to open my mouth and say what we have planned because i know that my mum will make plans to come with us.

god i sound like such a cow writing all this down but it really is starting to suffocate me now. i am one of three but both my siblings are still single and leading there own lives.

dh is prettylaid back about it but i get the feeling when he finds out that they are planning on coming round the world with us next year he wont be quite so happy about it.

any adice would would be appreciated! i honestly love seeing them and spending time together but i feel like we are a family of 6 rather than 4!

I see my mum everyday, we take her on holiday with us and 98% of our days out. I can never understand people not wanting to see their parents BUT thats because I lost my dad 5 1/2 years ago and would give anything to see him again.

Nah, it's not age-related, it's personality. My parents are in their 70s and although I see them a fair bit (I'm a lone parent), they would never invite themselves over. In fact they barely come here, I usually go to them. They are actually on holiday at the moment - 2 whole week! Selfish sods

OP - that sounds absolutely stifling. I think you are going to have to say something. Can you maybe talk to your dad and so he can work alongside you? It's not fair for your mum to expect you to include her in everything. And you have to stamp this holiday idea out now.

I don't want to see my parents all the time because... ...I just don't.

And yes, they're the only parents I'll ever have and yes, they'll be dead one day. But no, I won't look back and think that I miss them and how I should have seen them all the time.

I never understand that pov:

"My parents are intrusive and overbearing,"

"Oh, they'll be dead one day. You should be grateful they're around."

Whaaaat? Can I be a complete pita and get away with then because I'll be dead one day?

I mean, I will miss my parents when they're gone.