to not want parenting advice from complete strangers?!

[Littlepurpleprincess]

I was walking along, minding my own business with DS in the buggy. A woman said hello to DS, all sweetness and light. That's great. No problem. Then sais "oh, you got cold little knees, tell mummy to put a rug over you".

Erm, tell mummy yourself if you have a problem, I'm stood right here.

IT'S JUNE!

Why the dig? Is it nessarcery? DS is a happy healthy child, and yes I know how to dress him! He would tell me if he was cold.

Why do people think it's ok to critasise (sp?) me?

Rant over.

YANBU. And it's not just because you are young.

AIBU to wish that people would sod off with their unsolicited childcare advice?

ok I think the young thing is just me being paraniod.

I had an elderly lady ask me if I worried he would fall out his sling once

"yes love, I would put newborn pfb in sling, even if i was concerned he would fall out. And no, he's not strapped in!"

LOL! Did she think he could defy the laws of physics and pass through the sling straps?

It is ruddy annoying.

Does anyone else think that older people seem to be very suspicious of slings? I heard a woman say 'ooh look, it's one of them sling things' in a sneery voice to her hubby the other day as I trotted down the road.
Old ladies always seem to stare in an alarmed way at DD when she's in her sling. I'm tempted to say 'yes, it's lined with steel spikes. And I only feed her dog biscuits' as I walk past. Old bags.

YANBU

I hate this.
I got told up for covering dds legs up as I wanted to keep the sun off her legs.

Why can't people stop nosing?

YANBU but you just have to suck it up. When I lived in Singapore I got aunties telling me all sorts most of the time, even digging inside when I carried her in a wrap.

In some ways it's annoying, in others, reminds you of an age when people lived more in a community. An annoying community, but one all the same.

womma. I hear you re slings. I don't have a buggy and carry my daughter everywhere in a wrap and I've had pitying remarks regarding her pain, her discomfort, why I'm so cheap I can't afford a pram, she can't breathe and so on and so forth.

Some silly old cow in the tyre change place was making such comments to the woman with her son.

Old cow: 'Ooh has he got nappies on.'
Mother: 'He's not 3 yet you know'
Old cow: 'Mine were all dry before they were 2.'
Old cow: 'He's a boy though, boys are lazy aren't they, that's why.'

Well, I think it's good when members of a community are watching out for a community's babies. Don't take it all to heart - mostly they are just making conversation.

Oooh - and don't you hate it when people say 'Is this your first baby?' - meaning 'You obviously don't know what you're doing.'

YANBU
But oh, the irony of you posting this on MN where you, er, get parenting advice from complete strangers

Well, we can't realistically bemoan the lack of support for parents and the erosion of family values in modern society without sucking up well-meaning inteference from members of the "wider community".

It isn't meant in a nasty way. I know it's hard to take from strangers, but 99% of the time folk are not trying to be unpleasant or critical, they are merely trying to CONNECT.

Anyone from a non-Western culture will tell you that "aunties" and "uncles" will always pass comment on your child. It's seen as being supportive, interested and concerned, not as being judgemental.

Just smile and ignore!

I don't think it's ironic to post this on mumsnet. On mumsnet you are ASKING for advice.