To be annoyed at friends judgeyness?

[LissyGlitter]

I had a big barbeque party at my house yesterday, and one of my friends, who is about ready to give birth any minute, suddenly got ill and threw up. I went into the house and my friend and her boyfriend were saying "oh, it was probably that glass of wine she had, if i was pregnant I wouldn't go anywhere near alcohol, it's not like it's hard to have soft drinks for nine months" I was so angry! I am pregnant, and they know full well i have the odd shandy or whatever, and so did the two other women in the room who have had kids. Of course judgey-pants friend has never had kids.

Friend is always saying what she would do if she had kids or was pregnant, and has a few times implied that i am a rubbish mother and she would do things differently. I'd like to see how she behaves when she does finally have kids, and how upset she gets when everything doesn't go exactly to plan!

I don't think anyone (unless it is an actual case of abuse) actually sets out to hurt their kids, everyone is trying to do their best, and judgeyness doesn't help anyone! On here it is a bit different, because it isn't your actual friends so it doesn't matter as much, but in RL people really should think before they open their thick, ill-informed mouths.

[minesacheeseandpicklesandwich]

Ali It's actually not that bad (I speak as someone who has tried Eisberg, once! ) It tastes more like rose, you know, quite fruity, but it's made from Merlot, so it's not completely fake, IYKWIM. They do a white as well, but having been bitten once with Eisberg I have to say I am twice shy!!

Rolo I know what you mean, but the way I see it is if people want to judge me, then let them. I know what I am doing, my DP knows what I am doing, my friends know what I am doing, and TBH, no-one else's opinion really matters that much to me. It's like cheating on a diet or a test, really, the only person you are cheating is yourself, so why bother. People who are going to be silly about alcohol are going to be silly whether they are being judged or not.

Thankfully, I'm not friends with judgey people!!