I RSVP'ed by text......

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to a party invite from one of DS's preschool friends.
DH thinks it was a horrific thing to do and has just 'told me off' for being so rude.
In my defence...the "RSVP" on the invite just gave a mobile number and the other party invite he has received had "RSVP by text on 123456, tel on 456789 or by post to 12 abc" so I was in mindset that texting was ok. I didn't even consider phoning...

Part of me is now cringing inside..but only because DH reacted in that way.

If it helps, the other mum is pretty young so likely to be mobile-savvy.

Am I hideously socially inept?

No, if they gave the mobile no only, it's fine. I've done that, too, especially if I didn't actually know the other parent.

Yanbu.
In the context, texting is absolutley correct.

If your dh is so up in arms about it, tell him to take care of the party invites next time.

I text rather than ring. Don't worry about it.

Bloody hell
It asked to rsvp by text you did

Tis fine

Your dh is being a twat

All replies to parties are done via text at my ds's school - seems to be the norm these days. It was phone calls when dd was at the same school 4 years ago...

When they only give a mobile number, texting is a better way than (eg) leaving a voicemail message that they may not get. Sounds fine to me not rude at all.

not at all, if they left a mobile number it's fine to text IMO.

Sounds fine.
Think about it the other way round - if you were hosting a party it would be miuch quicker and easier to receive a dozen texts to work through than all those phone calls and polite chit chat with people you dont even know! She will be grateful A. that you replied and B. that you texted!

Stop cringing. And tell your dh to get with the programme, Daddio. What century doe she think he's living in?

I would be asking myself what he would have done in the situation - I presume he left it to you to sort out?! Or am I just being cynical here - my DH has a habit of criticising what I do when he does nothing!

And text just fine.

It's fine. I put my mobile number onto my DS's invites, expecting texts. I was surprised when someone actually called and left a message!

No - if the invitation gave the option of replying by SMS, then you have not breached any 'code' IMO. If the invitation was more formal then it would be rude to reply by text but the scenario you have given sounds very casual

So, to sum up, YANBU

It's standard practise at DS's school. Invites come out with text (mum's name) - 0000 0000000 in the RSVP section. I haven't come across one that hasn't.

YANBU.. replies by text are so much easier to keep track of who's coming.

I text RSVPs too - and prefer them when I'm having a party - esp if don't know the parents, otherwise the phone calls can get embarrassing - "So whose Mum are you again..?"

I have texted replies to every single one of DD's pre-school party invites. It's the done thing. I would prefer it too, on the receiving end. Especially as I'd rather not have a lot of conversations, and I'd probably forget to write it down.

I love you all!
knew he was being an old fashioned fart!
Well...hoped...

Well done for actually bothering to rsvp these days

Off the point but want to say that Tigana is my favourite Fantasy read!

YANBU

The invite clearly said that RSVPing by text was acceptable.

I would have done the same in your position

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If you are given a mobile number then RSVP by text is being positively encouraged..

Heck, at least you DID RSVP - how many threads have been done on this and other ofrums over the years about people not RSVP-ing at all...

texting is fine and tbh prob easier as then the host has got a record of who is coming/not coming and easier to remember rather than people calling to say yes/no and then then host forgetting