to think people should think before updating their fb status to something which doesn't match their lame excuses?

[drowninginclutter]

I'm probably going to be told I'm U for using fb at all but I rather like it. It's the best way I've found for keeping in touch with long distance friends/ relatives and sharing photos.

I've been trying to get hold of someone as we needed to organise some stuff fairly quickly or it wasn't going to happen at all. I left her a phone message Sat evening and about half an hour later she did a fb update from her mobile 'x having a blast from the past'. Didn't respond to my message until today with a text which said 'It's been a really bad weekend DD was poorly, I'm so sorry'.

AIBU to send a slightly shirty text back that if her DD wasn't ill enough to prevent her having a blast and managing to update her fb then it's pretty low using her as an excuse for not responding. The fact she updated from her mobile shows it was working and she had credit so no problems there.

This is also the second time someone has done this. Another friend was really late once, lame excuse, got home to find an update at exactly the time we were due to meet.

Why do people not think before they do this?

I have to say i hate techonology. Everyone thinks that because people have a mobile phone they have to respond immediately to your demands. 24 hours is too long to wait? Really? What happened to the days before email, voicemail and texting? No calls at supper time or after 9pm? If you needed something from someone you would have to wait until you saw the next or called the following day?

I think you are being unresonable to expect someone to drop everything and respond to you just because you want them to. I appreciate that you wanted to organise something but could you not have made an executive decision and just organised it anyway? Have you managed to organise it still?

i also think it is unreasonable to make an assumption that her DD wasn't ill and to want to text her back saying so. If her DD was ill i doubt she would want to update her facebook on it and doubt she would want to return a call to someone making demands on her for something when she had other things to focus on. Don't send the text and don't rely on facebook as a way of ascertaining what is going on in your friend's life. MOst people only leave positive updates so don't say when they are dealing with family illness or are busy.

The funny thing is the reason it was a problem is because I don't think people can drop everything at a moment's notice or make immediate responses. We were meant to be planning a party and you need to get invites out in time to let people RSVP so you can work out numbers and get venue sorted.

All week it's been 'can we meet up wed', 'can't make it, fri might be better'. Then not turning up and not texting to say she can't make it until half an hour after supposed arrival time.

As far as I was concerned this weekend was really the last chance to send out invites and allow a reasonable time for people to respond.

So no party

I understand and YANBU.
Also: Facebook isn't the work of the devil! It doesn't make people rude - it's just another medium which shows how rude they are already.

agree NPAM it does just show them up for what they are. Loads get caught out skiving from work I think people have been sacked over it? I know that's a different thing altogether.

Sorry about the party can you have your own? What about organising a bbq for your closest friends and family?

That is the new plan and I think it'll probably be better anyway. Definitely less stress

you sound happier now These lessons make you stronger in the end. I've met so many 'friends' over the years who end up quite selfish. Now I have some lovely loyal friends who I really appreciate warts and all.

Sorry about the party - sounds like you have a less stressful alternative planned. She clearly isn't reliable. I'd delete her facebook page from your friends list and not bother contacting her until she contact you and starts making some effort. If she doesn't, she isn't worth it and there are better friends to spend time with - hope the BBQ goes well

I had a friend with a mobile that told her what time I'd picked up my message. It was awful, she'd actually ask me why I'd not replied til whenever when I'd got the message a such and such o'clock.

I think I probably will and chalk this one up to experience.

Just praying it doesn't rain!