To expect DH to say thank you when I cook him a meal?

[NorkyButNice]

Maybe IABU, so feel free to set me straight, but this is something that really annoys me!

Anytime someone prepares me a meal I'll say thank you, as it's good manners (surely?). If the food is nice, I'll pass positive comments too...

DH sits down at the table, wolfs down his plateful so fast he can barely taste it, and neither says thank you or that it's nice (or not). I'm so sick of it now (I do all the cooking here) that I'll ask him every time whether there was something wrong with it, since he didn't express any thanks or enjoyment.

Each time he apologizes but never remembers for the next meal. So AIBU? Or is this basic manners?

nametaken - interesting that you assume I'm a SAHM! I happen to be off work on long term sick at the moment (ailment that I won't bother sharing), but I am fortunate enough to still be on full pay, so am bringing in a considerable amount of our household income.

I think that's completely irrelevant though - yes I'm grateful to DH for working, as he is me (when I'm well).

Do you really think that because DH works he shouldn't have display basic manners?

YANBU. It.s basic manners and even DD2 19 who can be very rude sometimes always says thank you for the meals I cook.

YANBU. It's so important to say 'thank you', even (especially?) for the little things - just keeps the domestic wheels going round.

BalloonSlayer - I get the same with the pepper, most annoying, as though any meal I made would not be seasoned to perfection!

Just carry on as usual. Put plate down in front of him, then stare at him with BIG eyes. When he asks "What?" Just tell him what you are waiting for.

Or, put it in front of him and immediately ask "Pardon?"

I have to prompt my P. Sometimes I don't bother but when I've spent time on something I expect a thank you and to be told it was nice. Otherwise I'll just irritate him by asking if it was nice.

YANBU it also really annoys me when dh gets up before I have finished eating and starts cleaning up (though maybe that is his way of saying Thank you )

YANBU. DH says thank you for anything I put in front of him. Even though it is sometimes quite horrible. But he is a chef, and knows that insufficient gratitude would result in him having to do all the cooking at home.
He encourages DS to say thank you too.

I don't thank dh for going to work. I do thank him when he makes me a cup of tea though.

OP YANBU I would be annoyed if my hubby didnt thank me for a meal, which he always does does unless its something I've just chucked in the oven like a pizza and requires no effort whatsoever. I'd do as other have said and not cook for him. Or not go out of your way. Its nice to feel appreciated when you make an effort and make something from scratch.

Balloonslayer I have the same but with salt, I know its not good for him and told him this. I on purposely dont season anything for him.