Am I being petty or was DP out of order?

[GlassMonkey]

I have two boys to previous relationship, DP has a daughter to previous relationship, we all live under one roof.

The boys keep complaining that DSD is favoured, spoilt and gets away with everything. I agree but have to tread carefully. But yesterday I was annoyed at DP. Yesterday at lunch time DP asked my boys what they wanted for lunch. They looked in the cupboards, asked for this and that, DP told them that all tat was available was soup or super noodles. They both got super noodles.

DSD then went in, kicked off, threw a strop and ended up with bacon, egg and beans. AIBU to be annoyed at this?

Another thing that pissed me off was that I went in the boys bedroom to find a pair of DSD's dirty pyjamas and a pair of DP's dirty boxer shorts on the floor! I asked DP how they had ended up in there and he said "they're for the wash". I asked "well why are they in the boys room??" so he just laughed and said "they're dirty, they need to go in the wash"

AIBU to think that my boys shouldn't have to have other people's dirty clothes on their floor??

Boys are 8 and 10. DSD is 12.

You are not being petty, Your DP needs to change his attitude.

I have a similar set up DP and I live together with my 2 DC and his 2 DC. All the kids are treated 100% equally, and DP and I back each other up. The way I see it we are one family unit and everyone has to abide by the same rules.

TBH I think this is going to cause problems with your relationship in the future if something doesn't change. Both you and your DS's will end up resenting your DP and DSD.

There seems to be a lot of this about. Are you either:

a) The family whose DSD moved out of her room for your DSes when you moved in

or

b) The MNer who decided this week she'd finally get her DSD to help out around the house

or

c) Neither of those, but yet another MNer with a DP, children of 8 and 10, and a DSD of 12?

Your DP is being very unreasonable. His attitude is going to cause a lot of stress in future if things don't change.

sorry but isn't this about your 50th (slight exageration and apologies if i'm confusing you with someone else) thread about moving in with your dp and how he does everything for his daughter? you need to put your foot down, or in 20-20 hindsight this should have all been sorted before you moved in.
but seeing as it's another incident to a growing list, yanbu.

Serial name changer!! I think she is a), b) AND c)
And you really need to stop complaining about this girl under different names and either sort it out with your DP or move out.

Blimey - I've got 3 kids and I'd have a riot on my hands if I cooked bacon and eggs for one and not the other two. Not that I would do it anyway - unless of course the other two had said they didn't want any.

It's very difficult anyway to make 3 kids feel they are being treated fairly, even when, like mine, they all have the same mum and dad. My middle child is quick to comment on any perceived favouritism towards the other two. He's probably insecure because he's the middle one. But DH and I work really hard to make them all feel equally loved and respected. Doesn't sound as if your DP is making any effort at all.

i our house dirty laundry seems to end up in the most mysterious places

but fortunately we're not a step family

so I can just get on with simmering quietly

Agree with Jopie

I would be a bit hurt about the "dirty wash thing" actually, did he mean by hes comment that the dirty wash basket or you DSs bedroom was one and the same thing? If so he is really vile.

If I have misunderstood I appologise in advance.

IMO you need to stop changing your name and start listening to the advice that alot of people have given you on the other threads. If you're not going to listen then stop bloody moaning about him, he is obviously an arse but you don't want to do anything aboutit.

OP come back.

You've had some really good advice on various threads, why do you keep namechanging and starting over again?

Yanbu but as the others have said, stop namechanging and talk to your dp.

Ah no - a) and b) were definitely different because a) was about to move in with her DP, whereas b) had been living with DP for about a year.

Unless as well as namechanging, she's timeframe changing to confuse us.

All kids should be treated the same and I feel you are living with 4 children.

Yeah but all the children were the same ages as these 3 it was the first thing I thought when I read the OP and they all end up on AIBU I would have thought some of them had they been different posters would end up on Step families or relationships.

Ahhh, just another moan.

Do you actually want othr people's advice on this or are you happy for things to stay the same while you just moan on MN?

You need to sort this out.

No, I think she changes timeframes to try and appear different, but I'd put money on it being the same person, because the details are always the same, the complaints are identical, and the OP never bothers to come back or actually listen, just namechanges and does another one.
I actually feel really sorry for the 12 year old girl tbh.

where are the other threads?