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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think that other kids should get on the ride I have put money into?

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 27/05/2009 23:49

I know I'm pregnant so maybe a bit psychotic but this really got me today. Been shopping for a few hours, dd's really good so I promised them that they could go on one of those rides you put £1 in. When we got there, there was a random kid in it but had not put money in and the mum was standing nearby. After a while she called her son out and my dd's got in (it was a singing icecream van if it helps to set the scene). Cue little boy saying to me 'give me the money I'll put it in' - I ignored and let my dd do it. Ride starts and random boy keeps leaning in pressing all of the buttons so my dd's couldn't. He was hanging off the ride and his mum still just stood there.. After a while I said 'do you think it's fair that he's doing that?'. She asked him to stop, he didn't. Another 30 seconds or so of me glaring and she dragged him off down the road. It pissed me off. So am I being unreasonable?

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 27/05/2009 23:50

Ha, so pissed off hours later that I can't even type the title properly - should read other kids should NOT get in the ride I have put money in.

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 27/05/2009 23:52

YABU to be so upset that you're posting about it at this time of night. Seriously, it's no biggie.

random · 27/05/2009 23:52

Thats kids for you

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 27/05/2009 23:52

I know! should really go to bed. I had a feeling it was touch of pregnant unreasonablness.

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thisisyesterday · 27/05/2009 23:54

oh, see I read the title and agreed with you!

I always encourage other kids hanging around to join my ds on ride on toyts if there is space for them,

sadly their parents always drag them away which i think is a bit mean

pinkteddy · 27/05/2009 23:56

I always ask dd if she minds. She usually says no and is happy to share. I always think its cos the other kid is desperate to go on so I feel a bit sorry for them. I do get where you are coming from though. If dd minded I wouldn't be happy.

MollieO · 27/05/2009 23:57

I'm not pregnant and I would have said something to the mother without waiting to half way through the ride. If she didn't move him and he ignored her I would take him off the ride. I would be okay if there was space to share the ride but usually the ones outside shops are pretty small.

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 27/05/2009 23:57

but there was no space - only 2 seats and so he was kind of hanging onto the side with his head poked through the window hogging all of the buttons. My dd's don't get rides often and so I wanted them to have the chance to enjoy it themselves.

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lockets · 27/05/2009 23:57

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ChippingIn · 28/05/2009 00:03

I get annoyed if there isn't really the space to join in without spoiling it for my LO's (like if my 2 LO's are on a 2 seater ride) but not if there are more seats (like a mini merry go round type thing). In fact, I think they are a stupid price, so figure the more that get to enjoy it the better!!

However, sometimes when it's annoying me a bit (the other kid is taking over), I look at the girls and they are either enjoying the company or haven't noticed, so I just ignore it, but IF it's annoying or upsetting the girls I'd just gently lift the child off and ask them not to spoil the ride and wait for their turn.

I don't get annoyed by the child (if they are little) but by the parents!

pania · 28/05/2009 00:24

I'm quite surprised that anyone thinks YABU to be annoyed by this. The mother should have asked you if it was OK for him to do that since he was clearly interfering with your dds' ride. She doesn't seem to be teaching him to be considerate of other people.

So YANBU IMO!

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 28/05/2009 00:50

I don't think anyone believes she was BU to be mildly narked at the time, but to have retained that anger for so long...? Not healthy imho.

fourkids · 28/05/2009 22:57

YANBU. The other child's mother was very rude.
i'm afraid I wouldn't have waited till half way through the ride either - I'd have said very clearly to the child 'Sorry sweetheart, but my DC is on the ride now. if you want a go you need to go and ask your mummy for some money.' And then glared very hard if the child don't go away. First at the child and the the mother.
Particularly if I'd just had to trawl round the supermarket with DCs!
I'm obviously not as generous as some people...but equally I don't think a mother who acts the way that one did is doing their child any favours in terms of teaching them manners, right from wrong, that they aren't simply entitled to things other people have, turn-taking etc.

Bonnycat · 29/05/2009 08:37

YANBU
If the mother was ignoring what he was doing i would have asked him very politely to stop if it was bothering my DC.Most children respond well to a polite request from an adult they dont know i find even if they dont listen to their parents.

loulabellecelino · 29/05/2009 11:42

YANBU. I would be seething. Thats unbelievably rude to do that. Does that mean if someone elses kid has an icecream its ok to go up and lick it? or take their sweets? You had paid for that ride for your child, and the other kid was spoiling it for them, not fair, and very bad manners. But sadly, not the kids fault, but the parents for letting them.

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