I will try keep as brief as poss. I am happily married with one ds from prev relationship, ex-p sees ds one night in week, every other weekend. He lives close by and has a girlfriend of 10months who has a 5 years old dd (not his). I get on very well with girlfriend. I am really not happy with the way ex-p looks after my ds when he has him. Forgot to mention, ex-p flies of the handle at the drop of a hat, is a compulsive liar, hits women (i had to take him to court 7 years ago, he hit me). He also hit an exgirlfriends son (he told me). Also he's previous girlfriend phoned me one morning in a right old state, as he had give her a good hiding. He has has a very abusive nature and is really vile. Anyway the reasons for my concern are this weekend my ds come home upset saying that ex-p had hit him because would not eat sandwich girlfriend had made because he does not like pickle. Also in the car coming home beach ex-p smacked girlfriends dd and there was massive row in the car. I know my ex-p does not like this kid (she is lovely) he has told me before. Also my ds always comes home having had no bath/shower for whole weekend. My ds has red hair and I am constantly telling ex-p to put sun tan cream on him when they go out. Last year ex=p took ds to beach let him go in the sea all day (no top on, no cream) ds was in a terrible state, had 2 visits to doctors and could not go to school for week as could not wear a top. Also the other day, he came and collected ds in his work van. As i went out to wave him off, girlfriend was in the front and i could see no kids. When phoned ex-p my ds and her dd were in the back of the van sitting on tools with no seatbelts on . I have tried to discuss all of this with him, he just shouts like a nutter and abuses me. Please help!