to think that my friend should have told me how her night was?

[LetThemEatCake]

friend has nice but somewhat dull dh, who doesn't like to socialise, has no interest in how she looks (and therefore never pays her compliments/ makes her feel pretty) criticises if she spends money on clothes, won't let her have people over to the house, has not taken her out in 3 years (no joke)

So she was really excited to be going to stay with her mum for 2 nights and having a night out with some friends one of those nights... but despairing over what to wear and asked for my advice.

I had her over to mine, opened up my wardrobe, let her borrow whatever she wanted and got really excited with her that she was going to have a great night. Sent her a text on the day saying have fun ... and haven't heard a peep from her!!

Is it wrong that I feel a bit miffed? Somehow I just want to hear a "I felt great in what I was wearing, had a great night/ 10 guys tried to chat me up/ danced all night/ got horribly drunk and threw up all over your top - sorry!!" - just SOMETHING!!

...maybe she has had a bit too much fun if you know what I mean....Did she make it home?

LOL I presume so ... it was last week!!

She's got a raging hangover no doubt and has gone back him to a moody and jealous dh-give her time.

Maybe he checks her texts, therefore she doesn't want to give anything away?

I would also have sort of expected a text though.

Sorry, I should be clear - the night out was nearly a week ago....

AIBU??

I think you are. Would you be this bothered if she hadn't borrowed your clothes?

maybe youve been banned because you are a bad influence(maybe thats what her dh thinks)?possible ya?

Hmm a week ago?..

I would expect a text by now but life does get in the way,going by your description of her dh,I don't think she would of came back to a happy home and is dealing with the fall out from actually getting out and being herself.

I'd text her in the week and ask if all's well.

Or maybe it was actually a bit of a disappointment, and she doesn't want to say that because you got excited on her behalf?

Arrange to get together with her (without her DH) and then you can ask properly.

Maybe not. I think I just feel like I somehow invested emotionally in her night. Like she couldn't get excited about it with her dh so I provided the outlet, as well as the outfit.

But the clothes are not a big deal, really - I can't wear them at the moment so have told her that she can hang on to them for the rest of the summer - it's not like I want her to tell me about every outing she has every time she wears them!!

cheesesarnie - that has actually happened to me before

and that "maybe not etc" from my previous msg was directed in response mrsmaidamess's post

To me it sounds like you feel let down that she wasn't has excited about her night as you were. Maybe you need to have some exciting nights of your own!

i agree-cant you text her.just say'hello-cant wait to here how your night out was' or even just hello,hope alls well.

i HAVE texted her!!!

and sorry, I lie - I have heard from her - a FB msg about something completely different.

see i knew it-bad inflence.i can feel the vibes from here!

mrsmaidamess - the whole reason why she came to me was because I do go out a lot and get dressed up a lot and my dh is very cool with it all.

I was excited for her because her dh is such an old stick in the mud.

The actual night out on which she was going was not my cup of tea at all. Band in a pub, no thanks!!

She's got in contact then?-get over it,it sounds like she had a shite night out or was too pissed to remember.

You sound a bit like her Mum, waiting for a call.

oh not at all - her mum is way too cool for that