to be peed off that ex dp sent dd back with a head full of nits??

[littlelamb]

Dd has been on 'holiday', staying first with her nan and then with her dad. She's been with him for the last four days. She came home today and kept scratching her head. I joked that she must have nits, and he said he had checked but hadn't seen any . When we got home from the station she wouldn't leave her hair alone so I had a look and she was crawling with them I am just grateful that I had nit stuff in the cupboard in anticipation of this day
I'm not blaming him for her catching them, but dd has told me she was itching the whole time she was there, and they were obvious to me once I looked at her hair. Could they really have all hatched on the 3 hour train journey??? I'm peed off that he didn't see them and that she has been uncomfortable for all those days. She has had a great time otherwise, and things have only just become amicable between me and her dad so I don't want to screw it up by making a fuss over something small, but otoh I want him to know I'm not happy. AIBU??

A bit. It's just nits! Make them aware and ask for future vigilance, but don't make a fuss.

Really? I don't want to kick up a fuss but it just seems that he didn't really look iyswim. She was scratching a lot
(was a bit shocked at what nits look like as well. Was expecting little black specs much like our sea monkeys so was a bit surprised to be greeted by actual bugs )

I think to get a really good full head infestation going takes more than 4 days, so she probably picked them up before her holiday.

Does her dad know what to look for? he probably had a quick glance and thought it was OK, not knowing to look behind the ears close to the roots etc?

Don't be silent, just don't stress too much. DD could ring you if it seems to happen again? You could nudge her dad to look more thoroughly. Perhaps DD could take nit stuff with her?

I didn't mean to say it was a trivial complaint - it's not - but just to reassure you that it's not the end of the world. They look gross though don't they??

Hideous little buggers I thought, oh maybe it's just a little midge. Not so.
SHe was stayign with her nan for a week before going to him so I do think she probably picked them up there. It's the not noticing that bothers me, but I guess I won't make a fuss about it. I'll mention it but there's not much that can be done now. The stuff has made her hair look dreadful though, I have shampooed it twice but it looks really lank

If she's been staying with her dad for the last four days won't he have to go through the thorough washing of bedding, towels, etc?

Thats what I thought isenhart. I'm certainly going to wash everything she'd come back with, so I guess he should do the same

He is a bit unobservent for not noticing but it's probably easier to keep quiet and keep the peace. Chances are he gave DD a farewell hug so he'll probably be going through the treatment himself soon.

Will make him more vigilant in future I expect

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I like it drowning. Ah, I'm having visions of him scratching like mad all the way home All is forgiven!!

It's really shocking when you first notice that your precious child has nits but I've had to learn to chill a bit about it.

I don't consider myself a bad parent (my dc's might disagree when I'm in a shouty mood ) but I remember vividly the first time I noticed my dd had them. I have an older ds and he had never had them before. She has very thick, curly hair and as I put it up in a ponytail for nursery - so she didn't get nits I noticed this creature! I looked further and there were several of the little shits nits. I was horrified! How could I have not noticed - I put her hair up everyday?!

It happens. She's had them since but now I'm ultra vigilant and have so far, only found eggs.

Speak to her dad, explain the situation and ask him to check her every other day or so. That should keep on top of any problems with them.

HTH

nice to see the doting dad got a wee parting gift from dd , next time she visits, pack her a spare comb and lotion with a wee note saying "use if scrattching" ,lol