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Vile Youth making trouble in my street

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RedCharityBonney · 25/05/2009 20:45

He's a horrible aggresssive 15 year old who has been excluded from school and who roams the neighbourhood with his also excluded cousin annoying people and doing criminal damage.

He started being a nuisance pretty much the week we moved in three years ago. He and his friends cherry knocked on our door every Saturday and some Wednesdays (whenever his mum did a night shift basically) for 18 months. Now they've graduated to pushing the cope stones off our wall, pushing bits of fence in and abuse in the street.

He swore at me in the street on Wednesday and I went and explained to his mum that I'm not having it, could he come round and apologise please? She phoned him and he came round and pushed my fence in....

DH was working at home. He heard a big crack, looked out of the back window to see Vile Youth and Vile Cousin legging it down the alley (no-one else in sight) and phoned the police. They gave a stern talking to to VY and VC but since DH didn't see specific act they are powerless.

Well it's all kicked off now.

DH was coming back from the shop on Saturday night at about 8 when one of a pair of men going the other way together called him a "fcking cnt" and told his friend that my DH had "accused his family" of something. He then made specific threats of violence towards DH and me and our children which are apparently so bad that DH won't even tell me what they were.

DH didn't look at him so can't identify. He said the man looked pissed, and was clearly on his way from the pub, and since he couldn't identify him he has done nothing about it.

AIBU to want to try and speak to VY's mum and smooth things over if I can? The police have told us to avoid all of them at all times, and I am slightly afraid of making things worse. But then how much worse could it get?

Would YOU talk to the mum or not?

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MaureenMLove · 25/05/2009 20:49

No way! The police have told you to stay well away, so stay well away. I know it's probably easier said than done, but all the time you go nowhere near their property, you have the upper hand. When the shit hits the fan again, you can confidently say that you didn't make things worse, by going round there.

I'm so sorry you're having this though, it must be awful for you.

herbietea · 25/05/2009 20:49

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RedCharityBonney · 25/05/2009 20:51

I feel forthis mum though - she is ok (mostly) and we've always got on before. I feel shitty for her too...

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MaureenMLove · 25/05/2009 20:51

Yes, definately keep a log of every single time he comes near your property and causes a scene.

luvoneson · 25/05/2009 21:15

Blimey this must be really awful for you and your family. I had neighbour trouble 7 years ago where i used to live. To be honest the police did absolutely nothing about it. The police cannot do anyone for criminal damage/harrassment etc unless there is actual proof/evidence of the person commiting the crime. They say its your word against theirs etc... To the average person you would think this could be sorted out with the police. Unfortunately it is not that cut and dry. Right, I know this sounds over the top but believe me its the only way. I would suggest you go the Jessops and get yourself a dictaphone to try and tape any verbal abuse. Also keep a camera handy to get any photos of them damaging your property. Also if you have to phone the police 10 times a day then just do it. You do not have to live like this. Good luck

luvoneson · 25/05/2009 21:18

One more thing as others have said to you. It is VERY important you keep a diary of all of this.

RedCharityBonney · 26/05/2009 14:54

Thanks chaps. I hadn't thought about a dictaphone, but I can see it would be practical.

It is awful, yes. Luckily the kids are quite oblivious to it all.

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Sidge · 26/05/2009 15:22

The police will know of this lad, and probably his cousin too. The more intelligence they can gather, the better the 'case' against them.

So don't contact the mum, don't go round there and don't interact with any of them at all.

Just keep a log of all activity, threats, damage and grievances and inform the police every time.

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