to get irritated by my neighbour shaking her rugs and banging her shoes over my patio?

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I live in a house divided into flats. It's on a slope so the ground floor has the garden at the front and the basement (where we live) has the garden at the back. My neighbour's bedroom window is directly above my back door off my living room. The door leads onto a patio which is only concrete admittedly but where I have a table and chairs and my DS has a trike and play house. My neighbour directly above (ie the one with the front garden) airs and shakes her rugs out of her bedroom window and today she was hanging out banging some presumably muddy shoes.

AIBU to think this is a bit out of order? I think the windows at the front are quite high and they have deep windowsills so not that good for shaking your rugs from but it's really not that nice to have all her dirt cascading onto my terrace.

I am in two minds whether to say anything so I thought I'd check with you lot to see if you think I'm being really precious or not.

That's horrible.

Every couple of months she gives them a good shake out of the window so it's not every day or anything. I just think that as she's got her own garden to shake her crap into, she should shake it there instead!

She probably is totally oblivious to what she is doing. I can see your point. I would'nt like it.

I think I'd 'accidently' open the door and walk out while she was doing it and then react loudly or call up to her about it.

Why dont you have a polite word with her explain about DS as well.

What Mag said. Happen upon her 'accidentally' and be theatrically coughy and spluttery!

no big deal, it's not like it's every day.

Just walk out there while she's doing it (or GET ds to) and then just ask her not too.

don't make a big deal about it, just ask her not to

I would sweep it up and dump it in her front garden she will soon get the message.

I guess I should keep my back door open more often. Quite often it's ajar but not wide open so she probably can't see it so doesn't realise that I'm right there, with her dust raining down on me.

I'm glad people don't think I'm being precious. I don't really want to say anything because I feel like I moan at her a lot - they had wooden floors laid a few years ago and the noise is dreadful now so I've had words with her about that a few times. We get on well - I help her edit things sometimes - which I think makes me feel more upset about it than pissed off. It's inconsiderate.