AIBU To not want to sleep with strangers???

[MissSunny]

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Miss Sunny, this job isn't as an air-hostess is it by any chance? Because if it is, complaining about having to share a room mught not be the best idea - have you seen the crew quarters on a long-haul aircraft?!

OHHH ... sleep with. Thought it was a euphemism. (Sorry).

Maybe pay for an 'upgrade' yourself?

LOL I have shared 12 man tents in awful conditions with men and women, but you know needs/job must! I would have thought that in a corporate environment this wouldn't be the norm unless you know your colleagues well and have consented in the first place!!

I would never do it but I don't work in the kind of industry that you would have to. We did share at the xmas party (was the only way we could get the company to pay for rooms) but there ended up being a bloke in the room with me and my colleague [mad].

Ya so nbu about the room sharing.

However, if I were you I'd not even be fretting about the room sharing because I would have changed my mind about the job as soon as I got the news about the travel expenses .

It all sounds very suspect, tbh.

They are totally out of order.

What is the job? Is it some kind of commission based selling job?

Thanks for your thanks MissSunny.

I'm being honest all our trainees and new intakes share rooms. Everyone who complains or comes up with any excuse to not share, other than a disability, is immediately marked as a troublemaker.

Whilst you may have the job you still have the probation to pass....

I wouldn't ever pay to go to compulsory training and a decent assumptive chat asserting this will normally be fine.
It is becoming in many areas standard to bunk people with each other on training or on initiation to the company.
Accept it and see how it goes.

YANBU.

I think it's highly unusual to be told you're sharing a room with a complete stranger & it would make me very nervous.

I often went on courses/talks/presentations etc as part of my job & we all had our own rooms when staying in a hotel & there were a lot of us.

The fact that they'll only pay part of your travel expenses is also rather odd

YANBU why on earth will they only pay max £50 train fare????

Ronaldinhio the purpose of probation is two way - the employee also checks out if they want the job. Perhaps as a result you end up with people who couldn't get a job elsewhere?

Not at all, though thanks for the analysis Brettsgirl2

This is factually a more and more common policy.
It isn't an employees market and tbh in highly competitive industries it never really has been.

If the role and company are important to you I'd advise that you either put up the cash for a single room or accept the room share.
Complaining will get you nowhere.

You never know you might make a work contact for life through it...you might both bond over your hatred for room sharing

YANBU

In my job we never share rooms on business trips. Expenses are for whatever is required within reason, all trains, meals, drinks, hotels etc. We take the receipts back to the office and get reimbursed. I must say a much stricter system than for MP's. You won't get your money back if you buy a paperback or a paper to read on the train for e.g.

I would expect to share if I was a student.

When I did medical sales rep training (many moons ago!) I had to share a room during a 3 week training course (back home at weekends).

I was horrified at the prospect too, but now see that it was actually designed to get people to bond quicker. It was also compulsary to attend all meals together too.

YANBU to be concerned, but if you do have to share a room it might be a lot better than you expect.

I think it's appalling to expect you to share a room with people you have never met. I've had to share rooms in the distant past with people I knew well but that was a not for profit organisation and it seemed utterly reasonable.

Not paying all of the travel costs is unacceptable.

The room sharing thing aside , why do they expect you to contribute to the travel expenses ? Why did they mislead you about the expnses ?I am sorry but I think they are going to be to**ers to work for.

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