to want dh to get out of bed!

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Seriously, it is eleven oclock now and I have been up with our 2 year old since 7am. DH went out yesterday at 2pm to watch the rugby and rolled in god knows when falling asleep fully clothed on the spare bed, the only move he has made today is to take his clothes off and get into our bed.

If it was a one off I wouldn not midn but it has been the last 2 weekends he has went out or away and the same again next weekend, i have no objection to nights out but its peeing me off when he wont get up the next day and there is no quality time for me him and ds.

Sorry just needed a whinge - sat here waiting on him getting up so we can go do stuff. Have slammed about and made loads od noise and even went in and asked him to get up - so fed up!

YANBU

I'd go mad if my DH stayed in bed on his days off!

Next weekend, arrange a night out with your mates and leave your H in charge of DS. You need free time, too and it's your turn. If he complains, point out to him that he's not the only person in the household and that you are not his childminder.

TBH I doubt any time you can have with a hung over DH could be counted as quality.

Get you and your DC ready and go out for the day. You could take some snacks or even a picnic and have some time with DH when he isn't feeling sore and tired.

Hmm wish i could but he is out next weekend also. It just seems to happen all the time and his time in bed gets later and later. I know its no fun getting up with a hangover but its just once too often now

YANBU by the way, I just know if it was me I would rather have a day out without DH if he has a sore head as he can be hard work and DD and I end up having a shite day.

But then again my DH only goes out once in a blue moon so I don't mind. If it is every weekend like with your DH I would have put DD (18mo) in our bedroom with him and closed the door, gone out and left him to it. But then I can be mean when I want to be

OK, tomorrow or midweek, sit your H down and tell him that you are going for an night out and he will be looking after DS. He doesn't get to be the only person who has childfree time. It's fine to want nights out, but when you have a partner and a child you have to share the work and take turns. Otherwise he is being allowed to think that he is the one who matters and you exist to service him.

yanbu

totally agree with solidgold- & it's not his going out per se thats the problem, it's that he seems to be doing it so often that you don't get to go out, and then also by laying in bed half the next day it has a knock on effect.

Thanks everyone, just got back from doing the food shop and he is still in bed. Im really annoyed at him. We are on ivf at the minute and i feel sick and a bit weepy from the medication and would just love a little help with ds today. He is just being a selfish pig. Its 1pm ffs!

I am very cross on your behalf - this would infuriate me. I would arrnage to go shopping at 8.30am on the morningof his next night out so he has to get up with kids

YANBU - do not stand for this, he is taking you for granted.

Are you sure you want another child with this man? This is beyond a joke now .

Has he always been this selfish? I would definitely stop the TTC for the moment while you think about him for a while. Unfortunately, quite a lot of men are selfish in a particular and deep-rooted way, they simply think that because they are the Man they are the Person and that their female partners are just the 'Woman'. This doesn't always show up until the DC arrive, as it's not always noticeable unless a woman is very strong-willed and observant, that the relationship is revolvin around the man and his needs: you always eat what he wants to eat, see the film he wants to see, spend time with his friends more than yours... when you have a baby and you have to put the baby first, men like this (and it is not 'all' men, it's just sexist men) get grumpy, unhelpful and TBH sometimes even abusive.

YANBU.

Next time he is off on the lash arrange to do something early doors with a friend. Leave the DC at home. Your DH will cope because he will have no choice.