My partner has a habit of constantly slagging off my ex. Thing is, he doesn't seem to realise that most of what he slags my ex off for, is what his ex-wife does but to a lesser degree!!
For instance the other day we were on about maintanance and he says "I think it's pathetic how much he pays, he could afford more than that" errr ... your wife pays NOTHING towards your daughter remember! she won't pay maintanance AT ALL!
Another one was ...
"I think he could have the kids much more than he does, he needs to stop being so selfish" --- his ex wife see's their daughter for about an hour ONCE A MONTH because she simply can't be arsed anymore than that! My ex has the kids every other weekend.
On a slightly different scale there was another incident where he was talking about another couple who had split up. He suddenly said "The kids are still with HIM?? so she hasn't taken them with her? that's so strange" - it's exactly what happened with his ex wife!! he got custody of the kid, she walked out and left her!
It really winds me up that he doesn't seem to remember his own life when he's slagging off other people.
AIBU? Should I mention this stuff to him more or would that be spiteful?