to ask DH to put his hand under the cardboard wine bottle carrier when transporting 12 bottles of bubbly?

[TheYearOfTheCat]

You know the cardboard wine carriers I am talking about? The ones that supermarkets give out, they pop up, and have a flimsy cardboard handle.

My DH insists I am being a nag by asking him to put his hand under them when carrying bottles into the house. Instead he is so convinced by their sturdiness, that tonight he carried one in each hand, both loaded with bubbly. (Sadly, not champagne, but cava ).

I know that AIBU is supposed to encourage debate and alternative views, but please, MNers, can you help me to persuade my DH to see the error of his ways?

in the shop its fine,if it spills they have to replace them as its there fault - outside the shop its ur responsibilty. I work in a shop with the flimsey wine boxes and i ALWAYS put my hand underneath them as they seem flimsey!

How often do you fill up on cava? If it's often YANBU, if it's a one off, he didn't spill any so no point in arguing so YABU.

I would always put a hand under them, especially cava or fizz of any kind because the bottles are wider and strain the box more than the standard wine bottles.

DH also has ishoos with this - he had 2 wine bottles in a standard plastic bag (I know, I know, we forgot our good ones, ok?) plus the other shopping and was quite happy to walk home like that, despite the fact that the white plastic was straining visibly - he got quite arsey when I wouldn't let him leave without putting the whole shebang into a second plastic bag for reinforcement

Thing is though, TYOTC, he isn't going to listen to your concerns UNTIL IT HAPPENS TO HIM. Then when he's wasted however much money because half the bottles have smashed, he'll pay attention next time - but he simply won't believe it could happen until it does.

i once saw a very sad looking man in the entrance to a supermarket, with just the handle of one of those cardboard carriers in his hand, and a big pile of broken glass, cardboard & a puddle at his feet.

YANBU

Thank you, thank you.

We fill up on cava more often than we probably should, and whilst I am happy to carry the stuff from the car, my DH enjoys displaying his manliness by carrying too much at once.

Trust me, it is not the first time we have had this conversation. When I told him that the checkout staff in Sainsbury's always tell me to put my hand under the carrier, he insisted that was because Sainsbury's ones are of inferior quality to Tesco's cardboard wine carriers.

sometimes you have to let people make (and pay for) their own mistakes.

and then roll your eyes knowingly whilst they sort out the mess

He have to christen his shoes with cava first; that'll learn him.

My sister had a house-warming party last year and DBIL walked into the kitchen carrying wine bottle carrier (with 6 bottles red wine) by the handle. The bottom burst and all 6 bottles crashed to ground. They spent the next hour mopping up. DBIL then sent back (DSIS) to supermarket with broken carrier to request replacement of bottles, due to "design fault" of carrier. They obliged....

To the OP - YANBU - I would never feel safe carrying anything like and would always want to support underneath.

yanbu

whats the point of taking such a risk (and be such a waste) if carrier broke

YANBU at all. I would not be able to watch your DH attempting the full carrier stunt. I would have to scream and/or grab the thing off him.

at thumbwitch's DH with two bottles in one thin carrier.

Well I'm afraid that when I told DH that everyone else thought he was being silly, he told me that of course everyone on MN would think that, because we're all women.

Any Dads about?

I can't stick DH on because his dignity is still too bruised, but we had exactly this conversation on the way out of the supermarket a couple of months ago, and to my eternal smug bitchery delight horror, he'd no sooner said

"Quit nagging, I'm sure it'll hold together as far as the car"

than he created a small tidal wave of glass and mixed beverages around his feet as the carrier succumbed.

I agree with Hedgewitch, buy a stitched 'proper' bag if this is regular, and sidestep the argument.