To be annoyed that over 80 years after women were first able to vote...

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...we still only get political pamphlets addressed to my dh in the run-up to an election?

Now, I'm not desperate to spend my free time reading these things but, as I intend to vote, I like to know where the various candidates stand on certain issues. My dh and I are both registered to vote, but it appears that the various parties address their leaflets to what used to be termed 'the head of the household', which they (laughingly) assume to be dh .

Obviously, I don't want them to duplicate and send 2 leaflets, that would be a waste, but I'm a bit irritated by it.

Am I being unreasonable or is my fluffy-kitten female brain in danger of overheating if I read these without male approval or supervision ?

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Thanks for trying to clarify the situation dilemma456 . I'm still a little confused though as to why I never get any addressed to me, despite being on the electoral role and registered to vote. Especially when I'm the one who makes dh get off his backside and vote!

One of life's mysteries I suppose .

You think that's bad we still cannot be named on wedding certificates, our fathers and husbands can but the mother cannot be put on a marriage certificate unless it's a gay wedding.

I was so incensed by this I did contact my MP because patriarchy is a pain in the ass.

I was incensed by the injustice not the gay marriage, which I have no problem with.

So, if ds turns out to be gay, I can go on his civil partnership certificate, but if he's straight I don't get a mention? Hmmmmmmmmm....

(My local MP is v. good at working the constituency - dh and I both got letters addressed from him when we moved in, inviting us to various events. He's not been featured in the Torygraph yet but I see from theworkforyou.com that he does claim the max. second home allowance despite this town being 25 minutes from London on the train...)

Eh? Why is the mother named in civil partnership ceremonies but not civil marriage ceremonies?

Because gay men are always very close to their mummies?

BTW I thought of this thread today when I got a personally addressed missive from mr cameron.

I don't know whether to feel affronted or important.

Can't be bothered to dig out my wedding certificate and check but I have a feeling faerie is right and it gives details of your father but not your mother.

Certainly father's occupation, because we had a big debate about dh's dad (owned a business, he suddenly decided signing the register or whatever was the right moment for an existential crisis about the exact label for his career).

it is true i remember that our fathers occupations were both featured.

It seems odd there is a difference though...

Don't understand.

Reminder that no-one has bothered digging out what should be the last vestiges of patriarchy. Guess they included the occupation question for social research purposes more than a century ago and no-one has ever noticed that ladies are allowed to enter the world of gainful employment in the 21st century.

I remember having to state what my father did for a living on the UCCA form (don't think that I had to say what mum did) for 'social research purposes' . Do they still do this?

My mum has has had problems for years. She was a housewife, and no income 'of her own' so all the bills had to be in dad's name, especial credit cards. Bearing in mind that my mother is a proper matriarch who keeps a vice-like grip on their finances and knows to the penny what's in their account (dad just earned it ) nobody from the gas/elec/credit card would speak to her on the phone and insisted that my dad had to deal with them. He hadn't a clue what was going on with the fine detail and all phone conversation had to be relayed through my mum .