to be bit peeved that DH has spent all day in the pub saying doing nothing is soo hard??

[drivinmecrazy]

DH's work closed for the day due to health and safety issues. He works away so did not come home, but phoned me from the pub at lunch time telling me how hard it is to spend the day with NOTHING to do. He and his friends are having a lovely time, day off paid, spending it drinking
I haven't had a day with nothing to do since DD1 was born 8 years ago.
He's always saying he would love to swap places with me so maybe today would have been the perfect opportunity.
What I wouldn't give for a guilt free day away from home, kids, houswork etc.
If I could have punched his smug face down the phone I would of.

yanbu but why on earth haven't you had a day off for 8 years?
is he back for weekends?
can't he look after the kids while you go to the pub with a friend?

ooohhh I know this feeling!!

You are soooo not being unreasonable!

If I go anywhere or he takes the girls out i am bomabarded with phone calls about what to do He is a great Dad, but he thinks I have a specific way of doing things and it works so why change it. TBH, if some one else(i.e grandmothers) have them I really couldn't give a rats arse what they get up to as long as they are safe.

ignore the phone!
so have the grandma's had them?
have you really not had 1 day off for 8 years?

Grandmas have taken them for a few hours, but to have a whole day with NOTHING to do is bliss. No where to be, nothing to watch the clock for. Only time they go away from me is because i have something to do or DH and I have to be somewhere, never for frivalous waste a whole day time

BTW, DH thinks I'm evil incarnate if I choose to spend time away from them, he can't understand that maybe too much quality time is not longer classed as such, but more as 'you're doing my head' in time.

YANBU and he is an arse to think you are evil for wanting a few hours to yourself. I'd make him take a weeks holidays and care for the kids 24/7 just to give him a little taster of your day. What a smug idiot.

Did once suggest he took a few days off to look after DD2 while I took DD1 away to lake district to visit her Granddads grave. Just wanted time away with older daughter as she was also grieving for my Dad. DH told me I should ask his mum to come and babysit because he couldn't wouldn't) take time off to look after her.

Sorry after reading your other posts have to say YABU... you've allowed him to get away with it for years so you only have yourself to blame. Get a backbone and TELL him he has to give you a day off