To be the teensiest, weensiest bit jealous of 'good-at-everything-AND-beautiful' children?

[cornflakemum]

My children are lovely, bright, witty, kind.... lots going for them.
DS1 is very good at music and drama. Not very good at sport though, so we always tell him music/drama etc is HIS thing/ skill, whatever...

So yesterday he was at a drama festival thing - did very well, and got a silver award .

But the child who pipped him to the gold is this 'perfect' child who already performs like a Shakespearean actor. He's also stunningly good-looking (at 10), he's easily the best musician in the school. Moreover he is good at all sports and team captain of football/ cricket. I have to admit, he just has a certain 'presence' about him (and it's not just me that's noticed it...).

It would be easier perhaps if he was a spoilt brat with pushy parents, but he's not (he's friendly, popular and polite), and his mum is one of the nicest people I know....

AIBU to feel a bit for DS (who really wanted to win), and a bit that some children so effortlessly seem to 'have it all' ?

Isn't it a bit greedy to be good at EVERYTHING?

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YANBU - just protective of your own child!

those kids who are effortlessly good at everything from a young age often peak too early!
Instead of seeing him as a rival to your ds's talents, his skills and abilities might encourage your ds to achieve what he wants. Often children like the idea of being as good at something as so-and-so is.

My DD is that child, cornflake (Well, not literally, but you know what I mean! )

I agree it isn't fair and I have worked hard to make sure she realises how lucky she is to have these natural abilities, but it doesn't make her "better" than anyone else.

She has always had to be extra sensitive to the feelings of others in the class, to the extent that she often refuses to tell me when she has done well in case she is accused of "showing off". It can be easy for others to resent her and she has been the subject of quite a lot of jealous cattiness. That's the other side of it.

I do worry that, having everything come so easily to her at the moment, when she has to struggle a bit with something she will not know how to cope.

I hope this doesn't sound smug, I really dont mean to be!

Mind you, I'm a miserable old cow with a hump back so maybe we don't have it all!

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Hmm - good point Yorkshire Rose about seeing the other side of the coin).

Whilst I wouldn't consider myself 'perfect' by any means, I also had natural academic and music/drama abilities at school

However I can vividly remember being VERY upset at about age 7 when someone won the house shield for 'always trying hard'. I remember my teacher trying to console me afterwards by saying, "the thing is, your work is ALWAYS excellent, and you don't have to TRY as hard a X..." I just didn't understand it all...

YABU
nobody has it all and i bet he doesn't see it like that. Maybe he is very insecure or a natural worrier.I only say this because my brother was similar i was always envious of his popularity, but he was so anxious all the time about what people thought of him, he still is. Having said all that being protective over your ds is perfectly natural.

I'm the opposite. I'm always looking at the proud parents of dullards and wonder what the heck makes them so proud! In any society there are always going to be a proportion of 'perfect' children at the top and good luck to them. Especially if they're nice people and so are the parents...

Luck of the draw really, not much you can do about it.

YABU to be a bit jealous, you WOULD be unreasonable to show it/talk about it in anyway!

There is always somebody better/smarter/prettier/richer/nicer etc.

Clearly that should be yaNbu to be a bit jealous.

its just life isnt it - that kid may well become a huge star/success in his field - some people are very clever or talented and it will show early on

there was a very cool bloke in our school (god twenty or so years go) - he was good looking, clever, good at acting. He got a first in English and became a professional actor. he stood out at the time.