Last day of term last year, DP's daughter came home from school, year 6 ... all the kids had signed each other's sweaters as they were leaving for secondary school. In her class is one girl who everyone "hates" because she apparantly "smells" and is "dopey" and "annoying" ... basically, she's a vunerable, disadvantaged 11 year old who has become a target and probably always will be. I feel so sorry for her.
So his DD came home with the signed jumper and this other girls name was on it. DP made a "ewww" noise and said "oh god, you didn't let "sophie" sign it did you??" shock DSD said "well, I had to really" and so he said "you didn't sign hers did you?"
At this point I snapped at him and said "ffs, how old are you?? don't you think the kid has it bad enough without you encouraging your daughter to pick on her too??" he looked embarrassed and said "no, you're right, sorry ... I hope you signed hers DD, it's only right ... " ffs
Last week we saw two men walking down the street holding hands. DP looked and shouted "eewww good god! how horrible" whilst my DS was in the car. DS obviously asked "what, what's wrong?" and DP said "those two blokes over there are GAY"
ds then started with the "ewww gross" comments and I came down on him like a ton of bricks, before starting on DP for being so ffing ridiculous in the first place and teaching my son homophobic attitudes. He immediately back tracked and said "no no, you're right, there is nothing wrong with people like that" hmm
He's now saying that he's sick of me having a go at him in front of the kids as it makes him feel small and the kids will have no respect for him if they see me "telling him off" like a child. I told him if he didn't act like a child, I wouldn't treat him like one. He says I'm doing the wrong thing by the kids and that if I have a problem, I should tell him in private.
Should I?