to be less then impresseed with dh making me look like a 5 y.o!!!!

[shavenhaven]

dh is doing something with his work this week (presentation kind of thing) and families are welcome to come along and watch.

i just happened to mention in the passing that i would like to go and would any of the other wives that i know be there, he said he was unsure so i said "oh well, i might recognise people when i get there"

in no way at all was i bothered about going alone with my dc and i did not give the impression to him of needing someone to hold my hand.

dh just came in half an hour ago and said that he has given my mobile number out to a load of the men at his work and asked them to get there wives to call me

he did then go on to say that surely one of them will not mind me tagging along so it is obvious he made out i was a loser (which i dont think i am btw)

now i am going to be so if anyone does call me and wonder what they must be thinking about a grown woman who cant go to something without someone else to hold her hand.

best part i was actually looking forward to going alone with dc!!!

I think YABU, sorry he was only trying to help. He obviously wants you to come

oh god that would annoy me as well.

quite apart from the implication that you need people to look after you in order to walk in to a room of people you don't know it's also the implication that the 'girls' are bound to get on with each other just because they're girls.

yuck

Yes I guess he was trying to help but I would have hated that too.

I think he was being helpful but I would have felt exactly like you-it would put me off going!!

YABU He was being kind and thoughtful.

I can see why you would feel a bit herded, but I don't see why it is obvious that he made you out to be a loser. Do you often feel that he thinks you need your hand held, or is this a one-off?

i have not been horrible to him about it.

i dont want to hurt his feelings after he has tried to do something nice but even though the thought was there he has made me out to be a twunt.

if you feel a bit daft about it (which I can see you would even though in a useless male sort of way he's been trying to help) why don't you just tell the story to any of the women you meet (in a nice way - not making him out to be an idiot) - they'll probably roll their eyes and you'll be fine.

agree tigerdriver - nail on head. it is a typical man thing to do - well-intended but a bit goofy - bless. the other women will sympathize and understand.

Ditto Tigerdriver !!

(Don't you love it when someone posts exactly what you want to say )

ooh, I feel like an old wise woman.....